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Being a father requires you to learn things you never imagined. For example, how to deal with a 9 month baby boy and a 5 yr girl. You want to play with the baby and provide the same, or even more, care to the 5.5-year-old. Sometimes I forget that and then feel bad afterward, but I'm learning. 😅

The challenge is, the 5 years old is smart and can notice quickly. I want to avoid that pattern and try to balance between both of them. If an older father is reading this, I'd love to hear your tips/advice(s) :D

First of all, you're doing great. Anthropologically speaking, it's rare that a father would even give a shit at all. Attention needs ebb and flow. Your 5yo is about to get real busy with school, big life change ahead. Your 9mo, (assuming hetero-norms, sorry) physically needs mom more right now.

5yo might want your attention because mom is busy. I'd be available there. Divide and conquer. When your son turns ~3yo it'll switch and you'll probably (hetero-norms, again) be the primary wrestling parent. Lots of attention is coming. Obviously play with both your kids, but know it averages out.

And finally, if I've learned one thing over the last decade, it's this: You can't have two kids happy at the same time 😅 So enjoy it!