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Thank Scott, this is a timely message as usual. What changed for you at 44? Was is a conscious choice to relearn how to cry, was it a particular life event or something else? I’m curious

I think the far bigger issue is the notion that treating other people with respect and dignity and having empathy is somehow un-masculine.

I did time. I was 18 years old doing 15 to life for being in an apartment that contained drugs. - the first time I saw someone get cut it horrified me. The pure violence. After a while I started asking what did that person do to deserve being cut. That thinking haunted me. Scared me. I lost me.

Actively engage with the movies/TV you watch and novels you read. Discuss the themes and emotions you experience with your friends. Read breakdowns about it. Media is created via human connection for human connection. To engage with it any less is to miss the point.

You’re the best, Scott ❤️‍🩹

Not only men. When my husband died suddenly I couldn't cry. I had to pick up the pieces of his business. I felt I had to stay strong for my adult children. Then one day, I got so damn angry at the situation I cried.

Crying. We are built for this as humans. It’s why we have tear ducts. I can personally say it feels so good to let the stress out. Better out than in!

I find crying releases energy and that energy revitalizes me

Masculine friendships often exclude emotional support. This is a problem.

Thank you for sharing this. Crying is not weak. It leads to strength and growth.

Every man is a real man, and some men cry sometimes.

If you’ve got a penis, you’re a real man. Now, you can cry over the size of your penis if you want to.

Crying was not permitted in my household & now I can't!

*fell. I agree, I looked at crying as being as you described. If I cried it meant I cared. Then I would sift through it all work out irrationalities, then validate X feeling, onto plan for Y , just work through cause and effect… felt normal. I love someone who forgot how to cry. This helped.

I'm a liberated man I know crying's not weak - Ken 💖 #Barbiemovie youtu.be/HIg5d8zYAWg?...

Humans cry. Navigating and regulating tough emotions like sadness and anger are important skills for men and women.

PS. You’re going to live longer because of this.

It’s not only men. I never cry anymore, and I’m a woman. youtu.be/57BwHKcrO5o?...

Chicken Jockey!

I don't get it, I've never used public opinion to judge my own masculinity.. I cry at cartoons when they're making a point about some moral issue. I do have an issue with death though, seen too much and I don't cry, I seize up. But I'm a wuss most of the time. Just sayin'

Thank you for your voice to our young men.

This is incredibly timely. We need to double down on empathy and challenge conventional ideas of masculinity. We need to pay attention to how we are raising and supporting our boys. Thank you for modelling vulnerability in a meaningful way @profgalloway.com.

Facts don’t care about your feelings but the fact is: your feelings are cold hard facts.

I had a moment at 21 where I wasn't even that torn up about something, but for some reason I felt I could cry for the first time since elementary school. I let it happen and it was therapeutic. It helped me to be so much more in touch with myself and my emotions. It's become very important as a dad.

Too bad Galloway is a genocide denier.

Sorry but no - U swallow that shit up and bottle up inside until u get drunk at a friends wedding and u let it all out in an massive rant about everything unrelated to what got u upset to begin with. Then u apologize, blame the booze and relax again.

The deeper I get into the ultra endurance space the more I am appreciating the beauty of raw emotion. Laughing is beautiful, and so is crying. You can’t have kne without the other

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This kind of assumes that a man actually does feel anything much. It's learned behavior not to, but if seven decades have given me perspective what I see in younger men I know is that they've learned it well indeed. But you're entirely right. And your last statement in this clip seems the norm now.

It’s a way to release oxytocin and endorphins, literally easing pain and stress. Normalize crying!

Boy, this got to me on a particular difficult day/time. Thanks Scott.

His voice caught as he told the story and he apologized. “Buddy, you’re allowed to cry,” I said to myself. Because he is. And no apology is necessary.

I've got two friends in their mid thirties. One can't walk without a cane and one can't hear without incredibly expensive hearing aids due to their service. Incredibly worried what's going to happen to them with all the VA cuts if they can't get access to help.

big baby.

Agree. Whoever was sitting next to me at the IMAX Interstellar showing got an emotional me for the entire 2.5 hours.

I so love you, Scott. You're like a ton of guys I worked with on Wall Street, except you went on - relatively late in life - to grow a soul and a conscience and a real heart. You should be proud of your huge, massive capacity for change long after others have lost it.

It’s what makes you human you know empathy but don’t tell Elon.

You’re so dang likable.

I cried at the end "Big Sick" (the movie). My father cried during "The Sound of Music".

This shouldn’t be a controversial opinion.

This is such good advice for humans generally. I am an emotional person, sensitive. I spent my 20s & 30s trying unsuccessfully not to be. I didn't know myself. The mindfulness needed to be emotionally intelligent is hard and takes practice.

Hey, even Jesus cried.