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If you’re the parent of an autistic child or adult, and you are also horrified by MAGA-style disinformation, please know you should be just as skeptical about getting autism information from people I’m going to call “grievance parents.” 2/

Autism grievance parents brand themselves as autism experts, yet promote reactionary ideas about autism and resentment towards autistic advocates—while encouraging followers to become too upset about having autistic children to question autism misinformation. 3/

Knowing how to identify and avoid grievance parents matters, because their efforts limit autistic people’s already challenging lives, instead of enriching or improving them. 4/

Who are these grievance parents? They are generally—like me—parents of autistic children with significant disabilities. Except instead of targeting “the libs,” grievance parents and the forums they run target autistic, disability, and #neurodiversity activists. 5/

emerald.com Autistic Adult and Non-Autistic Parent Advocates: Bridging the Divide | Emerald Insight1

It is painful to watch parents who should be my and my autistic son’s allies instead publicly declare war against the autistic adults their children will grow up to be (or in some cases already are) and dismiss the valuable advice autistic advocates provide. www.emerald.com/insight/cont... 6/

It is also painful to see how autism grievance parents deflect queries about their harmful behaviors, by enlisting and spotlighting outlier non-representative autistic adults who agree with their takes. 7/

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It’s understandable when parents new to autism to look to other parents for help. But it’s also crucial for those parents to understand that autistic adults are not the enemy. 8/

journals.sagepub.comChanging the story: How diagnosticians can support a neurodiversity perspective from the start - Heather M Brown, Aubyn C Stahmer, Patrick Dwyer, Susan Rivera, 2021

Like the leaders of any other community your child belongs to but you do not, autistic and disability advocates have beneficial insights and learned wisdom that non-autistic parents simply cannot provide (and that, as a bonus, research supports). journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/... 9/

washingtonpost.comPerspective | How listening to autistic adults helped me understand and support my sonThese adults can warn parents about avoidable mistakes, and they can counter our assumptions about what it means to live a good life — even when that life is complicated.

My mostly non-speaking autistic son has become several magnitudes happier, and my own parenting experience has become significantly less fraught, thanks to autistic guidance. www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/20... 10/

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My autistic son’s disabilities require full-time support, which means he and I live the very lives autism grievance parents tend to portray as horror shows. Please know that I would never deny how challenging things can be for families like ours. 11/

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@42ndhumanbeing.bsky.social

That’s an excellent article. I’ve also noticed people that aren’t experts in the field of autism will sometimes demonstrate a sort of Linus Pauling effect because they have a PhD in something unrelated. One of them said if autistic people don’t listen to her that they just don’t want to be helped.

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