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(thinking out loud) I don’t know that there is a true, actual identity we all perfectly hold internally that will be constant regardless of place/time/material conditions. That’s gender essentialism. It’s always an interplay of society/culture that an individual contextualizes themselves within.

8/10/26, 1:33 pm0 reposts7 likes

Vim🧛

@vimlena.com

I think of it being more like personality. Somebody may have some kind of abstract inclinations or tendencies but what that actually means as you navigate the world is informed by your experiences and what is normalized, treated antagonistically, and encouraged in your society idk.

Tom from Weaklung

@perefex.bsky.social

…allows for a kind of baselining by evaluating what values/traits/interpersonal presentations occur most often or most satisfactorily; the person who doesn’t know their “true self” can assess based on how “true” they feel in different areas around different people/groups/scenarios.

Tom from Weaklung

@perefex.bsky.social

Big if true! Implications for the idea of being “true to yourself” if the “true self” is not one thing but is malleable based on context… allows individual to give themselves some grace for not being true to themselves in some circumstances, AND…