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SEXISM STRIKES AGAIN I have always been the parent who makes appointments for our son, including with @unm.edu Hospital. My number is the contact number on the account. My husband knows jack shit about when the appointments are or who to even call about them. AND YET—

We got sent to collections because our bills from @unm.edu Medical Group have been going to a completely wrong address (we live on 44TH ST, it has been listed as 4ST ST?!), with my husband's name on the account. Somehow THIS collections bill got to us, but not the original ones from UNM-H.

I just called UNM-H to pay whatever I can and make sure they have the right address for us. Sure enough, the address is wrong and *I*, the person who does all the work for these appointments for our son, am not authorized to update it because *my husband* got listed as the guarantor of the account.

I had to merge him into a call with UNM-H to approve it. It felt belittling to ask my husband for permission for the things that are in my purview and always have been. Be better, @unm.edu Hospital!

Addendum: we were asked at one point whether we'd like texts for bills and scheduling. I never really saw those but never thought much of it. THEY HAD BEEN SENDING TEXTS TO MY HUSBAND'S WORK PHONE THAT CANNOT RECEIVE TEXTS.

So not only did they have a made-up address listed for us, not only did they make my husband the guarantor on the account even though I am the point of contact, but they texted a landline without verifying that it was the right number for billing. Absolute nonsense.