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...My brain is making a wild correspondence to a psychoanalysis book I'm reading.

Her point was about things that are unknowable, things our parents do that even they don't know the motivations of, as all people do things we can't entirely explain (or more commonly, explain post hoc). But I think it's applicable here, too.

The book also mentions that these theory formations are both inevitable —we have to make sense of the world somehow —and also frequently maladaptive in some way, and the ego tends to not want to let go of these maladaptive frameworks even when it's clear they don't work for us.

This is why the book argues that finding new frameworks must happen *without the ego's consent* (hence the title), and that we have to force it to shatter in order to rebuild them. Crucially, the 'grit', being unknowable, doesn't get a more accurate explanation, just one that works better for us.