Dan Savage

If only there were a Nobel Prize for heckling

In an ongoing series where we are defining some commonly used Savage Lovecast terms, today we discuss the hot topic of "PUDS", aka people who are "Poly Under Duress". Are you now or have YOU ever been a PUD? Share your stories below! For the full video, go to YouTube.com/DanSavage

Deep in rural Sweden, the tantric kinksters are getting FREAKY. At the “Sexsibility Festival” a 5-day erotic gathering where you can explore tantra, contact improv, and eye gazing along with impact play workshops. Enter Pearse, who cooks for the fest and hear his account!

If kids got raped by clowns as often as they get raped by preachers it would be against the law to take your kids to the circus. www.joemygod.com/2026/10/colo...

Going to be recording our Quickies show that's coming out November 3 — if you've got last-minute quick question for the Lovecast, send it to me now at the link or make a voice memo and email us your question to Q@savage.love! savage.love/askdan/

A new study from the Kinsey institute digs into the numbers on why it is that Gen Z appears to be less sexually active. It also reveals a segment of the Gen Z population that remains recession-proof. On this week's Magnum, I speak with Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute Dr. Justin Garcia.

How can this cuckquean make the most of her boyfriend's out of town hook-ups?

I'm last to the Shane Gillis discourse, but here I am. Let's go. There's much more to be said than can fit here in a 90 second clip so for my full comments, listen to the intro to this week's Savage Lovecast, out now!

I feel like this isn’t going to be the trick or treaters’ year either.

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. www.thepinknews.com/2026/10/16/a...

What’s it like to be a bearded, 6’4″, 250 pounc fella getting his nails done in preparation for the first crossdressing session with his wife? Listen to this week's After Action Report to find out! Tell us about your…transgressions. Write us at Q@Savage.Love

Should this bisexual man come out to his adult kids if he only sees men for casual hook-ups? Does his bisexuality fall under the zone of erotic autonomy, or identity? Hmmm?

On this week's Magnum, we chat with sex researcher Niki Davis-Fainbloom to do a deep dive on kinks and fetishes. The destigmatization of kink is making kinky people feel better about themselves… but is it making their kinks less hot? Listen in!

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Being "GGG" (Good, Giving, & Game) is an important state of being, but one not to be weaponized. What are some ways that you cultivate the spirit of GGG in your relationships? Head to YouTube.com/DanSavage to watch this full video & subscribe!

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Imogen was a seasoned Burning Man pro. But she’d never done a threeway with whippets there before. Hear all about her dusty experience on this week's After Action Report. What have YOU done lately? Hmmmm? Write up your experience (good or bad) and send it to Q@Savage.Love!

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Devastating 💔 Abolish ice www.instagram.com/reel/DePkMcN...

As we come up on the time of the night when The Great Chicago Fire started 155 years ago today, a family heirloom: plates that survived the Fire, straw from their packing excelsior scorched into their glazed surfaces.

A gay man is about to move in with his boyfriend. The boyfriend (who makes a lot more money than the caller,) is asking the caller to pitch in to a shared vacation fund in lieu of full rent. Is this fair? Is there a way to make their arrangement more equitable?

On this week's Magnum Edition, it’s a bisexuality brawl with sex therapist Claire Perelman! Dan and Claire talk about that new YouGov poll, why so many bi people stay closeted, and how bi people can overcome the stigma. New Savage Lovecast out now!

Ever find yourself tongue tied in bed when asked to "talk dirty"? Try this quick and simple tip! All you dirty talking pros, sound off in the comments with more tips!

On her vacation to Bali, she hooked up with a hot, rich dude with a glass house in the jungle. But, what tricks did he have up his sleeve? Listen to her full story on this week's After Action Report! And then send us your stories at Q@Savage.Love

This caller is having a tattoo conundrum. Should she let her fiancé off the hook with the removal of a previous tattoo? The answer seems pretty obvious, but it's a good jumping off point to discuss tattoos, their permanence, meaning, and possible removal. Do you have tattoo regrets?

This is the least boggling thing I’ve read in weeks.

Somewhere in the valley that lies between monogamy and polyamory lives the concept of being "MONOGAMISH". The word and concept was uttered by Dan and took off, probably because a lot of people were finding themselves in this valley. For full vid, go to buff.ly/X3GrSx6

Just how polite are Canadians? Meet Owen, a Canuck whose good manners went above and beyond when he visited the red light district in Amsterdam. Name a lake after this guy! Listen to this week's After Action Report for the full story! Tell us your story, right away! Send it to Q@Savage.Love

A woman from Southeast Asia is considering getting into a lavender marriage in order keep her queerness secret from her conservative family. She knows that in the West this is considered ethically questionable. But she might do it anyway. Should she?

It's like there are two kinds of youth pastors out there: the ones who got caught and the ones who haven't gotten caught yet. www.joemygod.com/2026/09/flor...

Casper the GGG Ghost

If having dirty pics is disqualifying criteria for public office, no one under 50 is qualified! If you wanna make history by sending a hot guy who looks good in a harness to Congress, you can donate to Gallant’s campaign. New Savage Lovecast out now!

We have Dr. Eugene Fan on Savage Lovecast this week to discuss a myriad of sexual health issues and to answer a caller's question about erections after a heart attack. Out tomorrow!

No words exchanged. He lying in a hotel bed. She enters and just watches. It was their first and only date. Rachel’s story proves that scheduled sex most certainly CAN be hot. Hear her story on this week's After Action Report, out now! Send your stories to Q@Savage.Love.

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Have any of you dealt with intrusive thoughts? This caller is battling a particularly annoying one. Do you have advice on how to get this mediocre man out of her head when she's having sex with her wonderful man?

Instances of genuine human connection ARE possible in dating app culture. It's good to be reminded of that at times. Share your stories of genuine connection via apps in the comments! New episode of Savage.Love/Lovecast is out now!

Actor Julian Shaw is finally coming out...as straight! And though some have accused him of being "gay for pay" he says he never accepted a fee and is also coming out to set the record...straight! Julian is our guest this week on Savage Lovecast, out tomorrow!

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. people.com/bob-mackie-d...

He knows this is going to happen whenever he goes out in public and he still goes out in public. It must make his dick hard. It’s the only explanation.

Meet Tom who went on a very special vacation with his girlfriend. Packing checklist: Kink outfits ✅️ Consent Form ✅️ Waste bag ✅️ Ability to witness your partner get railed by someone else ✅️ How did it really go? Listen to After Action Report to find out! And send us your stories to Q@Savage.Love

My lecture on the "Loveable Losers" Cubs and Norman Rockwell's "The Dugout" is now available online from the Art Institute. www.youtube.com/watch?v=W2sS...

Zach Noe Towers helps us answer this question on this week's Savage Lovecast, but we want to know YOUR tips / products / routines to get those hands sparkling clean and smelling fresh, post-fingering!