Decolonizing Love

The desire for power is a pathological death drive, ultimately oriented toward the cancerous destruction of all life.

Every country has the government it deserves. - Joseph de Maistre

Oh yeah I am the host of a relationship anarchy conference on Saturday 25th July. My aim is to put anarchy back in RA. www.eventbrite.ca/e/relationsh...

The new anarcho-capitalists is a type of relationship anarchist that thinks it means non-committal polyamory or a praxis that doesn't involve a commitment to ending hierarchies outside your relationship.

The mood of the world cup has certainly shifted now it these teams left: Spain, France, England and Argentina. Three OG colonizers and the Nazis.

Settlers and colonized minds fyi: you cannot perform your way into an open relationship. You cannot force compersion or out-think jealousy with perfect terminology. The body moves at its own pace and rejects inauthentic scripts.

If you affirm others hierarchical polyamory as an RA, you're a fraud. That's like calling yourself an environmentalist while defending fossil fuels. Anarchism is a radical challenge to all top-down hierarchies.

The world is coming once again together to celebrate the world cup. But let us at the same time not forget Gaza. Israel is still bombing and killing palestinians. Colonialism doesn't pause for humanity.

Monogamy runs on autopilot, the script has been written for you by culture. Polyamory runs on manual mode. If you don’t know your manual, you default to being neglected.

Monogamy often assumes your partner will meet all your needs. Polyamory is framed as the opposite: expect neglect and stop asking for more. Neither is healthy. Your attachment needs don't disappear in polyamory. The difference is that you actually have to know what they are and communicate them.

So the world officially has its first trillionaire. 🤮 I will forever maintain that if Mandela had redistributed wealth in 1994 instead of allowing white South Africans to retain the wealth accumulated through apartheid, we probably wouldn't be dealing with Elon Musk and Peter Thiel today.

To everyone in an open relationship: you are still entitled to having your needs met in an attachment-based relationship. Accepting crumbs is neither healthy nor functional. Non-monogamy should expand possibilities for connection, not become an excuse for neglect.

One of the greatest tricks colonialism ever pulled was convincing us that hierarchy is human nature. For most of our existence, humans lived in egalitarian bands. Domination and scarcity are political choices. Life doesn't have to be rule or be ruled.

You're monogamous because you'd rather be cheated on than face the fact that someone might honestly want to be with someone else. I am polyamorous in part because I hate lying more than someone being with someone else. I can handle anything if it's transparent. We are not the same.

Even if you can see the coloniality of compulsory monogamy culture; even if you recognize how deeply your nervous system may have been conditioned toward monogamy, it is still perfectly okay to say, “I don’t want to spend my life struggling to practice non-monogamy.

But honestly seeing both the collapse of monogamy and the American empire makes me all warm inside.

Some of y'all need to hear this: participating in cancel or call-out culture isn’t a substitute for organizing against institutions and structures of power. It can feel like action, but it doesn’t replace the harder work of building movements capable of changing material conditions.

“I am so SICK of hearing "History will judge them." Judge them now. With judges.”

This weeks episode with @decolonizinglove.bsky.social was a honor to have them on the podcast open.spotify.com/episode/3sSj...

Real harm should be named but movements lose themselves when carceral punishment replaces proportion, relationship, and real transformative justice.

The US government will evacuate white South Africans from a fake genocide but not American citizens effected by the war in Iran the US started. That's crazy!

It really makes sense now why the started with Venezuela. Secure their oil before destabalizing Western Asia and disrupting the oil flow. And it kills 2 birds with one stone. Meanwhile Cuba is being strangulated so they'll be too weak for an eventual invasion.

“EVEN IF YOU START A NUCLEAR WAR, WE WILL CRAWL OUT OF THE ASHES AS SEVEN-LEGGED MUTANTS DEMANDING THE RELEASE OF THE EPSTEIN FILES.”

The John Davidson tourette's induced N-word outburst at the BAFTA's towards the Sinners Cast is where we see the intersection of racism and disability. Because if the harm was towards a white audience, there would have been an apology issued already.

The amount of racism the cast and crew of Sinners has gone through has been insane. I'm not a fan of the movie but it's genuinely been vexing seeing that level of racism.

Most Polyamorous Names: 1. Bex 2. Quinn 3. Dan

Ok hear me out: what if, instead of releasing the epstein files, we release Luigi, give him a copy of the files and just let him cook?

Some cold water: not every boundary is based on a rational value, and not every desire for freedom is healthy.

“Therapy isn’t enough. I need Jeffrey Epstein’s clients publicly executed.”

Some of my safer sex standards for partners: -Recent STI test before we first have sex - HPV vaccinated - Few months of dating before I fluid bond - They must test after sleeping with someone new, and open STI/safer sex talks with new partners. Do what works for you, this is what works for me.

We need to kill the idea of the "ideal polyamorist": never jealous, cool with everything, doesn't even need much of a safer sex agreement, has multiple partners and is compersive. And If you're not that, you're not really polyamorous? We didn’t leave one script just to pick up another.

Everyone’s talking about America’s Next Top Model doc but am I the only that's always seen reality TV as cruel to me. It preys on vulnerable working-class people psychologically, by dangling a carrot. Cheap to produce, modern Circus Maximus, the only ones it really empowers are studio heads.

Puritan leftists are a hive mind. Colonial politics is a horseshoe, on one end is MAGA, and on the other, puritan leftists. Neither tolerates plurality of thought.

Today I realized even egalitarian polyamorists can be pussy whipped. Just because they’re polyamorists doesn’t mean they’re as good with friendships.