Humanising Men

Humanising Men

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A smudge of Aussie Bloke, a pinch of British Gent, a tackle of American Footballer We may yet discover why Men are so busy worrying about everyone else...

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The how-to-vote card is a suggestion. The ballot is yours.: BYV: 5 weeks out, the parties are still deciding where they’d like your preferences to go. In a 3-way contest, those preferences may decide who governs Victoria. @SueBarrett

suebarrett.substack.comThe how-to-vote card is a suggestion. The ballot is yours.BYV: 5 weeks out, the parties are still deciding where they’d like your preferences to go. In a 3-way contest, those preferences may decide who governs Victoria.

From Australian Idol to Wicked: The Lessons Rob Mills Learned the Hard Way Osher Günsberg

youtube.comFrom Australian Idol to Wicked: The Lessons Rob Mills Learned the Hard WayWhat does it take to build a career in entertainment, overcome self-doubt and learn to back yourself? In this episode of Better Than Yesterday, Osher Günsberg sits down with Rob Mills for an honest, funny and reflective conversation about the lessons he's learned throughout his career, from his early days on Australian Idol to becoming one of Australia's leading musical theatre performers. Rob opens up about the fear of not being good enough, how he learned to embrace uncomfortable challenges, and how committing to the work helped him grow into the performer he is today. He shares the story of being cast in the Australian production of Wicked, including the nerve-racking audition that nearly made him walk out, and explains why embracing embarrassment, asking for help and continually developing new skills are essential to personal and professional growth. The conversation also explores the realities of working in the performing arts, from the uncertainty of a freelance career to the discipline required to keep improving. Rob also reflects on mental health, the importance of normalising conversations about how we're really feeling, and why men in particular need to become more comfortable opening up and seeking support. Beyond the stage, Rob and Osher discuss the changing music industry, the challenges facing live entertainment, and why streaming has made it harder for artists to build sustainable careers. And as he considers the next chapter of his life, Rob also reflects on fatherhood, mentoring younger performers and finding new ways to channel his energy and experience. This is a conversation about ambition, vulnerability, creativity and the courage to keep showing up — even when it seems terrifying. *Links:* ▪️Follow Rob on Instagram (plus find his latest tour dates): https://www.instagram.com/robmillsymills/ *More from Osher:* 🎙 Better Than Yesterday podcast: https://tinyurl.com/BTYpodcast 📬 Sign up to the Better Than Yesterday newsletter: https://makeitbetterthanyesterday.kit.com/7d9d18dcee 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/osher_gunsberg 📖 Books: https://linktr.ee/osher_gunsberg 📺 Story Club on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@storyclublive 🎟️ Story Club tickets: https://linktr.ee/osher_gunsberg

Centrelink penalties resume amid warnings of unlawful payment cancellations and inadequate safeguards: Welfare groups had urged the Albanese government to scuttle plans to restart the payment cancellations, warning that unresolved legal concerns and inadequate safeguards… #SocietyampInequality

thepoint.com.auCentrelink penalties resume amid warnings of unlawful payment cancellations and inadequate safeguardsWelfare groups had urged the Albanese government to scuttle plans to restart the payment cancellations, warning that unresolved legal concerns and inadequate safeguards could leave vulnerable Australians without money for food or rent.

Fled War in Sudan, Lost to Addiction: How One Book Helped Me Quit Drinking

youtube.comFled War in Sudan, Lost to Addiction: How One Book Helped Me Quit DrinkingSamuel Reve fled civil war in Sudan at age 10 and was resettled in Australia as a refugee. Twenty years later, exhausted and lost to drinking and drugs, a book he picked up while walking home from a bender shifted everything. This is his story of what his mother's refusal to let him stay broken taught him about discipline, purpose, and what it takes to rebuild. ⚠️ Content advisory: this episode discusses abuse & exploitation, grief & loss and trauma & healing, which some listeners may find distressing. If you need support, you're not alone. Help is available: • Blue Knot Foundation (complex trauma): 1300 657 380 · blueknot.org.au • 1800RESPECT (family, domestic & sexual violence): 1800 737 732 · 1800respect.org.au • Lifeline (24/7 crisis support): 13 11 14 · lifeline.org.au • GriefLine: 1300 845 745 · griefline.org.au Samuel Reve came to Australia as a refugee from Sudan at age 10, escaping militia threats and the chaos of civil war. He landed in Tasmania, where the isolation and quiet safety disoriented him at first, but he learned the language fast and adapted. By his twenties, though, he had drifted into confusion: drinking, drugs, and a sense of being caught between two worlds. At 26, exhausted and broken, something shifted. He picked up a book called The Law of Attraction while walking home from a bender, and the concept stuck: whatever you put your energy into is what you'll receive. He went cold turkey immediately. Within months, he had started a cleaning business, built a discipline routine that lasted years, and rediscovered purpose. Throughout everything, his mother had been there, finding resources, reaching for him no matter how far he fell. That consistency taught him something about showing up for others. 🕒 CHAPTERS: 00:00 Why his family chose Tasmania 05:18 First taste of Australia 09:15 Militia at the school gates 15:37 One of the only African kids in Hobart 17:45 Melbourne and what ambition looked like 26:36 What you consume shapes who you become 35:25 Bridging two worlds, African family in Australia 42:00 Working as an NDIS support coordinator 46:56 His mother refused to let him stay broken 51:29 Where young men lost their mentors 57:29 The small things that hold you together 59:00 Building something to give back 👍 New here? Subscribe for a new story of resilience every fortnight: https://www.youtube.com/@kintsugiheroes?sub_confirmation=1 💬 Tell us what this conversation meant to you. Take our listener survey: https://form.jotform.com/262719186957070 📌 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Lifeline: https://www.lifeline.org.au/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT KINTSUGI HEROES ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ Welcome. We're glad you found your way here. Kintsugi Heroes was created from a simple belief: every person has a story worth sharing, and sometimes the story we need to hear arrives exactly when we need it most. Our name comes from the Japanese art of Kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold. Rather than hiding the cracks, they are honoured as part of the object's history. We believe people are much the same. The experiences that challenge us, break us, shape us, and help us grow are often the very things that connect us to one another. This channel is home to honest conversations about resilience, hope, grief, recovery, courage, love, and what it means to keep moving forward when life doesn't go to plan. Here you'll find six podcast series, each sharing stories through a different lens: • Kintsugi Heroes, hosted by John Milham • Animals & Us, hosted by Natalie Stockdale • Grit Diaries: From Grit to Grace, hosted by Simone Allan and Maryan Bova • From There to Here, hosted by Emma Bellamy-Dodd • Golden Threads: Stories of Disability & Resilience • Pride in Stories, hosted by John Dwyer Every story shared here is offered with the hope that it helps someone feel a little less alone. A little more understood. A little more connected. Whether you're navigating a difficult season, supporting someone you love, or simply looking for meaningful conversations, you're welcome here. New episodes are released fortnightly across our series. If you'd like to help us keep these stories freely available to everyone, you can support our work here: https://www.kintsugiheroes.com.au/donate Thank you for being part of this community. 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Why Do I Feel Unsafe When I’m Safe? 5 Key Points About Complex PTSD, Triggers, and Healing

youtube.comWhy Do I Feel Unsafe When I’m Safe? 5 Key Points About Complex PTSD, Triggers, and HealingEpisode Description “Why do I still feel unsafe when nothing is wrong?” For many people living with complex trauma, that question can shape relationships, work, and daily life. Terry McGuire speaks with licensed clinical therapist Amanda Stretcher Lewis about CPTSD and the ways old survival strategies can show up as people-pleasing, shutdown, self-criticism, or fear of rejection. The conversation offers practical, nonjudgmental language for listeners and loved ones alike. It also explores what healing may look like: more room to pause, more self-compassion, more connection, and a growing sense of possibility. Listen for an honest, hopeful conversation about moving from survival toward thriving. Primary Topics Discussed • Feeling unsafe in safe relationships • Implicit memory and survival responses • Attachment patterns and CPTSD • People-pleasing and shutdown • Trauma bonding and codependency • Finding a trauma-informed therapist • What recovery can look like daily • Post-traumatic growth Timestamps • 00:04 Giving Voice to Depression welcome and mission • 01:05 Why CPTSD belongs in a depression conversation • 02:50 Introducing the featured RECOVERable conversation • 03:27 What complex PTSD is and how it differs from PTSD • 04:10 Why formative experiences can feel so enduring • 06:53 Safety, belonging, and co-regulation as basic needs • 07:53 Generational trauma and experiences without clear memories • 09:00 How invalidation can become an internalized identity • 10:59 Developmental skills that may be disrupted by trauma • 13:19 Dissociation as a protective response • 16:27 Getting curious about patterns that once served a purpose • 18:06 Finding trauma-informed, relational support • 21:07 Why CPTSD can involve shame and self-blame • 25:31 Why trauma survivors may think something is wrong with them • 29:39 Replacing shame with language and understanding • 32:07 How loved ones can offer support without trying to fix • 34:48 Trauma bonding, codependency, and relationship patterns • 36:04 Common CPTSD triggers and expanding capacity to respond • 39:22 Why the body may feel unsafe before the mind catches up • 41:46 Diagnosis, ICD-11, DSM-5-TR, and access to care • 45:28 What healing from CPTSD can realistically look like • 48:31 Therapy approaches and the importance of a safe therapeutic fit • 51:16 Recovery as greater choice, agency, and possibility • 53:43 Signs that healing may be taking root • 54:55 Closing message from Giving Voice to Depression Explore mental health and addiction treatment options at recovery.com (https://recovery.com) Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/GivingVoiceToDepression/ Terry's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/givingvoicetodepression/