Leland

I like exactly what I like!

Creating an opening shows interest; stepping back when the effort stays uneven shows respect for your own needs. Those choices don’t contradict each other. You’re allowed to try, discover it doesn’t feel good, and change your mind. Initiating doesn’t obligate you to keep pursuing.

You can be vulnerable without falling apart if the outcome is uncertain.

There is this grief that we don’t talk about enough about feeling like we have missed the bus that we thought was ours. The bus that was supposed to wait for us.

I think lifetime we simply have to try!

Risk mitigation is literally racial discrimination in the workplace. I’m actually excited to possibly be going back to school and writing a dissertation about this.

L- But I don’t want this to be about proving the old connection was real. D- What do you want it to be about? L- Whether we actually like each other now. D- I like that. L- Because we can have all this history and still discover we’re terrible together.

With him the pull probably weakens the more you keep your energy neutral and stop feeding the ambiguity. Attraction can still flicker when you see him, especially if he stares or performs around you, but without access, conversation, flirtation, or emotional reinforcement, the charge has less oxygen

You have the kind of energy that makes reserved men feel both wanted and seen. Wanted feels good. Seen feels exposing. That is why they may be drawn to you but also nervous around you.

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After this much distance, he should recognize that you are no longer participating. You don’t have to revisit the relationship merely to make your decision understandable to him. Your consistency can communicate the ending.

He can privately process whatever remains without pulling you back into the very limbo you worked to escape. You’re allowed to recognize that something once existed while still deciding that the door is closed.

I envision walking up and saying, “Hi Stranger… tell don’t me you’ve missed!”

Going to the hospital and seeing death come for a loved one is a terrible experience. I call it pre-grief: the person is still alive, but death feels inevitable.

modern dating can encourage people to protect themselves so aggressively that two interested people end up performing indifference 🥲

It’s a fascinating when a guy becomes immediately unattractive.

There is something about spotting someone from a mile away

You don’t have to close the door on him. You can simply stop being the only person opening it.

But at some point, reserved has to become reciprocal.

He represents the question: “What would have happened if timing, fear, and circumstances had not interfered?” Because that question was never answered, part of you still carries him as unrealized potential rather than a completed relationship.

Fairness does not eliminate scrutiny; it makes scrutiny survivable.

He may have awakened your capacity for deep attraction, shown you what emotional recognition feels like, and revealed the cost of allowing mutual uncertainty to remain unresolved. That would be a real purpose even if the two of you never become partners.

He represents your hope that after everything you have endured, life might finally give you something you do not have to fight into existence—but you will still have to step forward and give it a real chance.

But not every answer can be obtained through reconstruction—especially in love. Sometimes clarity only comes from acting and permitting another person to answer for himself.

I really just wanna find my husband before I get rich.

I need to have faith that history is going to be kind to me.

Friendship is honestly showing up.

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The one caution is not to make him carry D’s unfinished story. He may remind you of D, but he deserves to reveal who he is.

Why do men become nervous when the attraction becomes mutually visible.

I’m so blessed to have an awesome community 😍.

Sometimes the most memorable thing is simply walking up, smiling, and saying: “Hey, it’s good to see you again.”

So litigation will test your patience. But I do believe that’s it’s important to speak your truth and give encouragement to others.

No lies detected.

I need to trust myself that this is worth exploring and to just be vulnerable. I literally have nothing to lose… I do think that deep down inside this is the universe way of making things right. 🎉

I believe in blocking men because you are one step closer to finding your person!

I found this baby blue shirt 😎

He may be open internally. He may feel the pull. He may remember you. He may soften when he sees you. But he would still have to choose to move past the armor. That is the part that cannot be assumed.

The clean emotional truth is: you may have mattered to him, but mattering to someone is not the same as them being ready to meet you.

I need to trust my intuition more. And I need the universe to give me one more shot 🥰🎈…

“But we all know that shutting down and hardening our hearts doesn’t lead us closer to what we want, but instead pushes us further away from the lives we desire and deserve” - Pg 14

The company we keep by Alexander Zelle is good ❤️🫶🏽

In this life we all go through obstacles and it’s empowering once we own it in the middle of caos. It doesn’t define us it just makes us more resilient.

What is meant for me will not be lost by one imperfect moment

Making peace does not always look like feeling nothing. Sometimes it looks exactly like this: still sad, but no longer closed. You can feel the ache of what it was or what it meant, and still be willing to let life bring you something new.