Marissa Franks Burt

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

He loves us. He hears and responds to our cries. He comes to be with us. He *is* with us. ***********

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

Christians who learn: God isn't listening. He doesn't care. He isn't here. Ignore the cries of the suffering... ...have been formed by heart-breaking myths, because the Christian Story reveals the exact opposite. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

These myths leave parents threatened by the needs & personhood of their children, pastors seeing themselves as the victims of congregants in church family systems, the powerful ignoring the cries of the vulnerable, dismissing the suffering of others, and calling it "love." +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

Did the God-who-became-human not experience those very stages Himself? There can be additional myths: -God is irritated and angry with *those people* -The needs/emotions/struggles of *those people* are due to their sin +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

-God is irritated & angry w/me. -My needs/emotions are due to my sin. -It's normal for spiritual authorities to identify the motivations of others & withhold presence. -God is distant & uninterested in my pain. -My pain is a problem to solve alone. -Crying is pointless. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

In this sense, adults and children alike become the inconsolable child abandoned by a detached Father. No one is permitted to have complex needs, cries, or pain. Difficulties will be met with tidy theologies that explain why abandonment is love, actually. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

Parents, also, are ill-equipped to process their own emotional responses and are often told to ignore or override their intuition. Exhausted, frustrated, angry, or triggered parents are left alone. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

Babies/children are out to "get" parents + parents must "win" + corporal punishment as a primary tool + parental overwhelm and frustration = the mistreatment of children. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

Theologies that: (1) present God as a detached deity interested in the preservation of his authority at the expense of relationship (2) normalize indifference to suffering, and (3) redefine abandonment as love have real-life problematic applications and exponential impact. +

Doug Wilson advocates for leaving crying babies at the other end of the house so they learn they cannot summon you. He is not the only self-appointed Christian parenting author writing stuff like this Gary Ezzo pointed to Matt 27:46—"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 🧵

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Self-platformed Christian parenting influencers claim timeless biblical authority as a way of inflating what has always ever just been personal preference. This leads to unquesitonable certainty and a pressure cooker for everyone. It robs families of so much joy and freedom. 1/2

What have you heard Christian parents say to defend “spanking”? Or what made (makes?) it difficult for you to give up the practice? We have a chapter on corporal punishment in The Myth of Good Christian Parenting, available everywhere now. 1/2 #christianparenting #discipline #biblicalparenting