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Although rarely recognized as such, this is spot-on in my experience as a transsex woman: Non-transsex-centered queer theory is fundamentally divorced from empirical reality. It amounts in practice to transsex erasure (or compels it), beginning with *a compete epistemicide of our lived realities*.

new transfeminist/disability writer saying hi hi! i'm madi (she/her). i'm looking to share my political writing, covering transfeminism, physiological disability, and psychiatric disability (1/2) #transfeminism #disability #substack

I just shared a heartfelt text on Substack on my raw experience of being a maternal incest survivor as an autistic trans woman. "On dying a little bit everyday with no end in sight" offers unmediated access to the depths of my current state of mind. It stinks, it bites—read at your own risk only.

The treatment of AMAB survivors of childhood sexual abuse (inc. non-genital forms of incest) IS PROOF enough that there are MANY issues on which EVIL patriarchy and PRISTINE cisfeminism not only work hand-in-hand together, but actually gleefully so. A reminder that we JUDGE systems at what they do.

it was a woman who violated me as a child and it was older girls who forced themselves on me growing up and it was other women who groped me w/o consent when I started HRT and it was a woman who tried to rape me. this is one of those weeks where i'm reminded that I live in another universe

like being real the only actual solid predictor of transition success is money. being an obstinate little bitch that locks in really hard will get you far for sure but that doesn't and can't make up for material reality. if you are loaded you can speedrun passing in 3-4 years. that's just true

I have a new article out in Sexualities on cisfeminism, or feminist transphobia that is not straightforwardly 'TERF'. Honestly, I feel a bit weird promoting this article in the middle of all this horror. But I do think the section on epistemic practice touches (cont) doi.org/10.1177/1363...

What else is there, than ostracizing the accused? Organization. The very thing we’re bad at. Proactively protect the members of your community, including the accused. Negotiate apologies, restitution, and boundaries to prevent further abuse. Resolve the issue, and then let it lie. 16/

Do you know what happens, when a person who’s deeply terrified of being an abuser gets put in a position of power? Often, abuse happens. Not because the person was right about their nature; but because their fear blinds them to their own actions. Every error is a potential ego threat. 11/

I actually did find myself arguing from the Not All Men side more than once. I was a closeted trans woman at the time, and harbored quite a lot of shame over the impulses of my body, being raised in a patriarchal purity culture. It was deeply important to me to not be seen as an innate abuser. 8/

I think this is what the most principled of the Not All Men folks think they’re saying: many people still subscribe to the penis = evil model of gender, and that’s harms everyone. We need to make sure we’re modeling the conflict at the material and structural level, not at the ontological level. 6/

Obviously, the truth is that gender qua gender has nothing to do with it. The modal rapist is a cis man because patriarchy ensures cis men have structural power over everyone else. Cis men are not “naturally” or “biologically” predisposed to rape. Rather, they are inducted into a rape culture. 5/

As far as the queers went, we of course allied on the “not cis men” side, as was right and proper. :3 But because MeToo was predominantly a cis movement, its effects broadly reinforced cisgenderism. If you think gender is immutable, and you think men are rapists, then manhood itself is poisonous.

Imagine that this a take that will get you cancelled in many supposedly ' 'queer', 'queer-friendly', 'feminist' & 'progressive' spaces. It really shows how much neoliberal culture destroyed critical thinking skills and obliterated most class consciousness organized around shared material realities.

If you aren't aware, Turkey is going through a terrifying authoritarian anti-LGBT crackdown at the hands of Erdogan's ruling party. Turkish trans people have already been seeking asylum elsewhere and need our support ❤️‍🩹

We live in a batshit crazy world. And of all the crazy things I can think about right now, tribalism is the one that terrifies the most. Yes, it speaks of my experiences. Yes, it speaks of my biases too. Yes, it’s perhaps not the most dangerous. I am honestly more and more scared by this world. Ugh.

To their defense most cis people never interacted with transsex ones. It's thus unsurprising if they identify 'trans' with the non-transitioning cissexed folx. For this group, being trans is mostly a socio-political stance mainly divorced from material reality & analysis. In other words: a costume 😕

One of the most striking analytical reframing I recall stumbling upon emphasized that you don’t get to choose *is* and *isn’t* feminism. All are. I‘d add that if we look at ‘feminism‘ as a big incestuous family, a lot of problematic behaviors and harmful dynamics immediately start to make sense.

It’s so exactly that. Entitled pseudo-‘revolutionary’ and pretentiously ‘systemic’ takes, which in fact hide a considerable ignorance of the world and ACTUAL systemic analysis skills (!!!), fueled by the putrid desire for simple one-size-fits-all fixes alongside moral superiority EVERY FUCKING TIME.

This is why trans solidarity is the most important thing to me. It’s really easy to hate and denounce the gender you were assigned at birth until you see how it liberates someone you love. I love femininity because it is good for the girls I love. I love masculinity because it is good for me!

Maybe we need to have a big sit-down as a community and like, discuss the difference between masculinity and patriarchy and how not every culture performs masculinity the way America does, because like… holy shit

George has another banger article about ME. ME/CFS, POTS, MCAS and EDS are all neglected illnesses by our systems. ME can kill. It's like brushing AIDS under the radar. Look after the people with ME in your life. Believe them. Give them mutual aid. Even if they cannot speak, be there for them.

I have been banned form r/AskFeminists Oh gee it was quick. It's quite tantalizing how incredibly fragile cis white American liberal feminists are (the dominant kind on Reddit). It's pathetic. I understand better the cis hate now. It's poisonous, but those cissies are quite responsible though.

The harsh reality is that a lot of what we name ‘recovery‘ is in fact a lie wrapped (as almost always) in a fucking individualistic neoliberal lie. I have yet to read an account from someone who ‘recovered’ while being under minority stress, mostly alone, in a situation of economic hardship, etc.

I met a trans woman today who thought I was 26 because of my skin. Guess being a devoted lifelong sun-hater helps a ton, but don’t forget sunscreen (LRP Anthelios I ❤️ you) and retinoids (I recommend the 4th generation ones—i.e. Aklief). But still conpletely dizzy by being perceived SO young 😵‍💫🫥😶‍🌫️

Hey bluesky, how old do I look on this no-makeup pic?

There really is an expectation in cis society that trans people ought to accept second class status. In voting for anti trans “goodies”, in accepting segregation. Always just an outrage at not accepting oppression and our status as lesser

This is an incredibly enlightening take, which highlights how for both AFAB parents and cisfeminism to mature, they have to consciously integrate their misandrist shadows. But this first requires acknowledging that misandry *can* be a real systemic force, which the both firmly oppose—of course.

Women, if you've experienced this, reach out and I will help you find resources to make sure your son grows up healthy and safe. Everyone, if this happened to you, find a therapist who can work with you on preverbal trauma. Psychoanalysis will likely be a good starting place.

It also boils down to *privilege* as a term—which I tend to use when I am furious or want to lash out—but who my other selves profoundly despise. *Being not affected by* would be so much more specific & adequate IMO. Because else we conflate socio-pol analysis with an essentialization of people 🤢 🤯

An important lesson from actual project management is that when you prioritize everything, you really don't prioritize anything. Priorities by essence have to be ranked. Else it's not priorities, but wishful thinking.

The purpose of a system is what it does. Mainstream academic queer theory is exclusionary, if not outright eliminationist towards transsexual women. Intent and origin of what it was and was supposed to be doesn’t really matter in the face of what it currently is and does.

It's so difficult to get cis people to understand the jk Rowling thing isn't that she doesn't like us so you should punish her. It's if you give her franchise any kind of support you are contributing to trans people being excluded from society