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ThatLadyFromThatPlace
@somethingweirder.bsky.social
She/her/they Loves music, brassy dames, all the smarties, and intersectional decency. Hates fascists. Safe space for the queers, the queens, and the gender fabulous. 🌈
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All Dad Jokes Go to Heaven Today, October 27, would have been my dad's 89th birthday. Sunday, October 25, marked the 11th anniversary of his death. Needless to say, it's an emotional time of year. My dad was a complicated man. He was the life of every party, never knew a spotlight he couldn't…
Red Support, Blue Support, I Support, You Support Quote from a Facebook Group I follow: I am a traditionally conservative person. How can I let Trans people know I'm safe despite my conservative views? My dear, sweet, conservative Child O'God! First off, let me commmend you on maintaining a level…
I’m Still Here Tuesday marked one year since I had my teensy little stroke. For about twenty minutes, the vision in my right eye was basically a white blur. And though it cleared up quickly, it changed everything. The brain that occupied so much of my identity revealed itself as s ticking, knotted…
That Razor-Thin Line I had to step away from things yesterday. We're in the run-up to midterm elections here in the U.S. As a gay, liberal woman with a disability, I am acutely aware of how important every election is. I'm also aware how hard it has become for me just to get to the mailbox to get…
That Canary Ain’t a River in Egypt This is a tale of two cliches. Cliche #1 is the canary in the coal mine. We all know about that poor bird, sent down into mines as an early warning system for poisonous gases. Rarely works out well for the canary, amiright? Cliche #2 is about the difference…
It Ain’t Virtue – It’s Chemistry DISCLAIMER: I'm not a doctor. I'm a blogger with a boring day job. My experience is not your experience. If you need medical advice, please consult a medical professional—not some random blogger on the internet. (Even if she is a paragon of wisdom on all other…
I'm torn between the genuine hilarity of this screw-up and the dismal light it shines on the state of geography education in this country. Seriously? Maine and Oregon are LITERALLY on opposite ends of the country. www.bangordailynews.com/2026/10/12/p...
Don’t Shoot the Messenger (begs The Messenger) I got my first customer service job in 1986. At 20 years old, I was not prepared to deal with angry customers. Forty years later (jeesh!), I still do not understand people and why they have to be so mean. Let me back up. I am a Recovering People…
Where I Come from, We Call that Air A thousand years ago, I moved from the swamps of Louisiana to sunny Arizona. I was drawn by the mountains, city life, and significantly--the lack of rain. The year I decided to leave Louisiana, we had 100 inches of rain--and I stopped counting in August. Now, I…
Welcome to the (Not-So) Spooky Time of the Year Welcome to Spooky Season! Halloween has always been my favorite holiday. My wife, however, is baffled by this. "How can Halloween be your favorite holiday if you hate scary things?" I think the answer is obvious—Fun Size Candy, duh. My evolution from…
A Different Point of Shrew Step back in time with me, won't you? A few million years or so. You, a tiny mammal roughly the size of a shrew, are chilling in the Jurassic, doing your little shrew business, when all of a sudden a huge light fills the sky, followed by--well, chaos. All around you, the…
A Fish Don’t Know She’s in Water… A few years ago, my supervisor, Drew, was coaching me on my calls. He knew I suffered from anxiety, so he asked me to tell him what ran through my mind before answering the phone. As I rattled through the grocery list of fears, doubts, checks, double-checks,…
…And the Universe Says “Psych!” When last we left our fearless heroine, she was...well, breathing. You know, afyer two weeks of chaos, hospital visits, chaos, etc.? Mere hours after that post dropped, I was at an emergency dental appointment with a swollen jaw, massive pain, and a wife who was…
Panic! Chaos! Overwhelm! All chaos makes Deb a nervous wreck!
Have Disabilities, Will Travel Traveling can be tricky...
Jealousy, Thy Name is… You ever had one of those friends? You know the type. Annoyingly talented people who excel at everything they do, only to add insult to injury by being genuinely nice people? I have one of those friends. Granted, I didn't know she was one of those people when I met her,…
Beaming Up, Baby! It's September 8, 2026. Do you know what that means? It's Star Trek Day (cheers in fluent Nerdlish)! Yup, back in 1966, the world welcomed two amazing forces of goodness and wonder--Star Trek and little old me! Now, Deb, you say. Surely a woman as sophisticated and genteel as…
Dear ADHD: Can I Speak with Your Manager? To: ADHD Brain Management Department Re: System malfunction issues To whom it may concern: I would like to discuss my recent experience with my ADHD Brain with Autism Enhancement, Model year 1966. I am a long-time customer who has been using your product…
Filing My ADHD Tax Return Late–Again ADHD can be taxing!
Hello, Roadside Service? Last night, something broke in me. No. It was more like a pop! That sound you hear when your tire blows out from under you on a long stretch of highway. After that pop, I felt...nothing. Empty. Vacant. Oddly calm. Nothing was better. Nothing was resolved. Nothing had…
When Pillows Attack… For most of my life, I've loved to sleep. Despite weird circadian rhythms, periodic bouts of insomnia, and occasional nightmares in glorious Technicolor, sleep is still my friend. Maybe...too good a friend. If you peruse the last few entries, you may notice I've been talking…
Push-me, Pull-me, Sleepy, Wired This morning when I dragged myself out of bed, I felt certain I would have to fight to stay awake at my desk. True enough. I'm forcing my eyes open. Problem is, I simultaneously had massive rushes of panic--hands shaking, heart pounding, a feeling of being trapped.…
Stupid Brain Tricks Well, after sixty or so spins around the sun, I think I can finally make it official. I'm over my brain. I've spent decades defending it. Sure, it's quirky, but there's a lot of creativity going on. Yeah, there's some good ideas and excellent pattern recognition abilities. But,…
She’s Having a Case of The Vapors There's a line from The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood that has taken residence in my head. To paraphrase, Miss Vivianne has taken to her bed. That remains the finestest euphemism for AuDHD overwhelm I have ever heard. On Tuesday, like Miss Vivianne Abbott…
Zig-Zagging Down the Mustard Brick Road I am a born storyteller. It's how I communicate. It's how I understand. Stories are the road that leads from the deep, weird recesses of my brain out into the world where Other People(tm) can be located. That Yellow Brick Road in my brain is not smooth. Or…
Hello Goddess? It’s Me, The Pushover. Nope is a complete sentence.
Alas…Mondays I write these posts a day earlier than I publish them, meaning 50% of these things are written on a Monday. And suddenly so much of this stuff makes sense, huh? Today, however, Monday seems to be out-Mondaying itself. So forgive me if I indulge in a little game of "Jobs That Would Be…
Centuries Ago, in the Year 2026… Ironically, our digital footprints may reveal more about us than broken pottery ever could.
Fie on Thee, Real World Come on, people. We all have to Adult-as-a-Verb now and then. Can't we have some fun with it?
Just Little Old Me (All of Us) I had a weird experience the otther day. I was in a team meeting, minding my own business, when my coworker suddenly started talking about my book. I knew he had read the book. I sent him the link myself. I knew he'd finished the book and wanted to give me feedback.…
Welcome Human 101! (No Shame Admitted) I hate admitting I'm human. I hate admitting to being jealous, petty, and flawed. But I'm human, with all the jealousy, pettiness, and imperfections that humanity implies. I won't go into details about what triggered these current feelings in me. It was just…
Making Life Fun Size Long before I was diagnosed with AuDHD, I had enough self-awareness to know I am not built for the long haul. By long haul, I'm not talking about neurodivergent hyperfocus. I'm talking old-school, nose to the grindstone persistence. You know, powering through. I have never…
Random Acts of Delightful Chaos I'm not an acronym gal. I never ask WWJD. I do not suffer from FOMO. And, since I am a firm believer in reincarnation, YOLO just seems silly to me. But lately, I have found an acronym that works for me: RADC (aka, Random Acts of Delightful Chaos). Now, I don't know…
Movin’ the Bones…Yet Again Once again, I am moving the bones. Seems I've spent most of this first week of July unraveling my screw-ups from June. Mostly stupid mistakes resulting from a lack of follow-through and an excess of distractions. It's a yucky place to be. But, since I have already…
Never Say ‘Never Again’ Recently, I've made a few bad choices. This is not new. It's kinda my thing. But this time, something feels different. Me, I guess. I'm sitting quietly in the fallout of my most recent bad choices, and I'm noticing something new. I'm not making excuses. I'm not feeling…
My Sick Mind (and How to Fix It) Disclaimer: I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV. I write blog posts and my day job is in insurance. If you need medical advice, I'm not your gal.
The Capitalist Reject & Weirdo Society I've been shuffling around the corporate world since the late 80s. And if I have learned nothing else, it's that corporate HR loves categorizing people. From MBTI to What Color is Your Parachute?, I have run the gamut of HR personality tests. Problem is that…
…And She Pivots… We aren't really vacation people. Modest finances and mobility issues severely limit our travel options. But, now and then, we will save up and take a trip. Cruises are a big thing with us. Being just a few hours away from the ports in L.A. and San Diego make this a realistic…
The Economy of Imperfection My pal Debb and I have had many conversations about AI. Specifically, about using ChatGPT as a tool in organization and goal setting. We are both GenX-ers with late diagnosed ADHD who have spent a lifetime "not living up to their potential." And we have both found…
Screech! (Perspective Shift in Process) On January first, I started writing a book. The main protagonist, Maggie, has a twin sister named Ruth. Maggie and Ruth are very different people. Both are smart, professional, and in the process of dealing with very deep wounds. That's where the…
Sweet Summer Overwhelm I don't want to do my French lesson. It seems such a small thing, but in light of everything ony plate right now, I might as well be defending a Master’s thesis. When little things pile up, it's easy to go from one to overwhelmed in thirty seconds. Add in June temperatures,…
The Other War Nobody Asked For One of my favorite guilty pleasures is watching reaction videos on YouTube. You know, those random people who watch something on camera and freak out in carefully-edited real time? I know, it seems like a waste of time. But in this highly isolated world, these videos…
A Big Giant Nope I'm back in the place where I just don't want to see the world. Not from a distance. Not up close. Not in any capacity. "Real Life" (whatever that is) just seems too scary and overwhelming. Even my fictional world seems too much. I just want to crawl under the covers and shut my…
It’s Mah Birfday! I have no plans. I have no expectations. (I have no money...) But it's my birthday and happy birthday to me!!!
Step One Complete. Now… At the beginning of the year, I set a goal to have 50K words written on my novel by June 1. Well, I technically didn't meet that goal. I finished the novel instead. On May 31. It clocked in at around 40K words. I'm actually proud of this accomplishment. This is nothing like…
Mining Trauma for Fun and Profit I've been writing fiction for over forty years. From my first (and only) horror story to my current novel, I have always been more comfortable in my imagination than in "The Real World." Every writer, whether professional or not, has their own process. Some…