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Assigning a role to me and assuming what I'd like early on kills the vibe so fast. Because at that point, these people aren't seeing me. They're seeing an archetype that they've projected onto me. IDFW lazy assumptions. 🥱🙄👋 (Or, for that matter, stereotypes of Asian women. There, I said it.)

Switch doesn’t inherently mean "sub with a bad attitude" or "will submit when assigned." Get that idea out of your head. That's a recurring frustration my switch friends have expressed. It really depends on the vibe with other person. Trust and good vibes are earned. Do not skip negotiation.