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"What are you into?" Let's get to the point where I feel a vibe. Then we'll talk. "But you're so sexually open." Not for people who think everything I'm into is transferrable. "But you've written about submission." Not for people who assume I would submit.

Cy KT | Super Smash Cache

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Assigning a role to me and assuming what I'd like early on kills the vibe so fast. Because at that point, these people aren't seeing me. They're seeing an archetype that they've projected onto me. IDFW lazy assumptions. 🥱🙄👋 (Or, for that matter, stereotypes of Asian women. There, I said it.)

19/10/26, 1:51 pm0 reposts2 likes

Cy KT | Super Smash Cache

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Switch doesn’t inherently mean "sub with a bad attitude" or "will submit when assigned." Get that idea out of your head. That's a recurring frustration my switch friends have expressed. It really depends on the vibe with other person. Trust and good vibes are earned. Do not skip negotiation.

Cy KT | Super Smash Cache

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See also: when I say "I don't think we're a good fit" and they start to argue with me about it and say they disagree ME BEING ATTRACTED TO THEM IS A REQUIREMENT FOR A GOOD FIT. ARE THEY FUCKING DAFT? Blocked.