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Autistic adults: "We can show you how to love your autistic child better, because our neurotypical ableist culture makes that harder than it should be." Autism Grievance Parents: "We're good; we actually value neurotypical ableist culture more than we value our, or our kids', happiness. Kthxbye."

17/10/26, 12:49 am24 reposts111 likes

Alia Breon, MD

@aliabreonmd.bsky.social

Or sometimes it's this... Autism grievance parents: "We're good. We learned early on that to belong—to survive—we need to hide our own neurodivergence. Difference terrifies us beyond belief. So force compliance and medicate what you can't mask." Nonacceptance is fear.

Bog Witch

@georgiabogwitch.bsky.social

Anytime a kid is diagnosed the parents should be offered screening. When my son was dx (long before I was) they matched me with an experienced autism parent I could ask questions. An autistic adult would have been way more helpful.

morninggloryvt.bsky.social

@morninggloryvt.bsky.social

Once I discovered the autistic traits running throughout my family, this sentiment explained so much of the ableism and masking I was taught.

Jamie

@ldylna.bsky.social

Thanks to autistic adults I knew ABA could be traumatic. Thanks to autistic adults I know masking is dangerous. Everything I learn I search out autistic adult voices to make sure I’m doing what’s best for my child. I need a council of autistic adults I can pepper with questions!

Helen Ellis

@hjellis.bsky.social

💜

Ember Green

@embergreen.bsky.social

There used to be Facebook groups that were intended to be exactly that. Idk if they’re still going :)

throneofsouls.bsky.social

@throneofsouls.bsky.social

Yeah that sums that up. They don't care about actually being able to meet autistic people halfway, they want our suffering & they want our compliance, not trying to understand us (because God forbid that we're actually people who want to be seen and heard.)🤬🤬🤬🫩

Yet Another Emily

@anomily.bsky.social

This falls under the broad category of “believe that others’ experiences are different from your own and you can learn from them.”

Kitsch Mama Ozma Bara

@retrosnob1988.bsky.social

Honestly, the same could be said about any experience where an actual autistic person tries to teach Neurotypicals about autism. Usually, they don't want to hear from the legit source as much as they'd rather hear what is likely a bunch of misinformation

Ice Cream O'Clock

@ryanoneil.bsky.social

I might go on to say that for a fair share of people, it's like that for everything. Some people can't or won't value other people's experience at all

Kitsch Mama Ozma Bara

@retrosnob1988.bsky.social

Pretty much