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ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

i just want to cry. i have literally just spent the last 6 hours responding to email after email of people begging for rent money or for me to point them in the direction of help, which does not exist. please @governorwalz.mn.gov. we need an eviction moratorium. there is no other solution.

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tehmud.bsky.social
@tehmud.bsky.social

I got nothing. I wish I could help these people but my broke self can't do much. There's gotta be something we can set up to help these people. A vetted like gofundme or something where people can donate to their rent. I just don't know how we'd get the funds to them

ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

just to clarify for nice people DMing me—i dont need rent money. i am good. i am trying to help raise money for people to have their rent paid, but the entry points into how people get the money are confusing to explain, because hundreds of orgs are doing the work and it’s not all built out.

Just Luna | loves ko-fi
@lunabluhma.bsky.social

I hate to do this, but I'm desperate as well. I'm about to lose power and internet... If any kind people with means could help me out, I need a little over $300 to stop my electric/gas from being shut off. (I'm 5 months behind and now almost $1300 total) my cash app is $lunabluhma 🙏

ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

I probably really need to talk to my therapist because I just cannot stop responding to them because I hate the idea of someone reaching out for help and hearing nothing back, even if the reply is not very helpful. ugh. this is why i flunked out of direct service work. i am just not built for it.

Subvet
@subvet.bsky.social

You sound like my daughter..She wanted to work for CPS..I sat her down and told her she wasn’t built for it.. ‘What would you do if court ordered you to take child back to parents you knew were abusers?’ Her response ‘I’d refuse’..end of job.. then she said ‘or I’d just kill them’.. also end of job.

dread pirate roberts
@dreadpiraterobbers.bsky.social

I have a feeling that it's not so much that you aren't built for it, it's that it's meant to be done by the entire community & not by a small slice of the population. If a few individuals weren't hoarding all the resources, I have a feeling you'd be one of the best at this. ♥️

grace
@grace.lol

💖 I understand. please take care of yourself. you must. bsky.app/profile/grac...

grace@grace.lol

my therapist recommended the book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski after experiencing stress, YOU MUST DO SOMETHING to tell your body that it is safe, otherwise you’re still soaked in stress juice (sorry for weird alt text on a columned table)

Fiona "Fi" Webster 🌎🌍🌏
@fiona-webster22.bsky.social

I'm a psychiatrist-psychotherapist, Ashley, urging you to take care of yourself. Something I use & recommend often to my patients: the Freedom app. It's billed as a productivity tool to help you focus, but what it *really* is, is supportive of good mental health.

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Faith K. Falkner
@faithfalkner.com

You've done far more than most of us, Ashley. You also need to take care of yourself. That includes your mental health and stepping down for rest. In fact, despite the horrors, you always come first. If you don't put your own oxygen mask on, you can't assist others.

ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

i am normally very good about it, but i am channeling all my anxiety into working so much that i don’t worry. so when i stop that all just gushes out. i feel guilty because everyone i know at home is doing so much. i spent like a decade learning to rest and this has zapped it all away.

Ian Coldwater 🧊🚫
@lookitup.baby

I feel this so so deeply. Are you doing everything by yourself right now? Can you bring in other people to help step in to take some of this on so you can take some time to rest?

ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

i respond to every one of them and offer the small guide of existing rent assistance that @colocharachel.bsky.social kindly assembled. i tell them they can set up a gofundme and we can post it. i apologize that this is happening to them. i have a version in english and in spanish.

Simply Rheumatoid
@simplyrheumatoid.bsky.social

"Decent, affordable housing should be a basic right for everybody in this country. The reason is simple: without stable shelter, everything else falls apart.” Matthew Desmond, 2016, p.300 Desmond. M. (2016). Evicted. Poverty and Profit in the American City. Broadway Books. Thank you for caring.

Luna the Pug
@lunathepugsmom.bsky.social

It’s ok to cry. I was in medical social work and dealt with exactly what you are describing. I would get in my car, turn the music up loud and cry. One time I cried at my desk, it is just so hard. Your clients do value you answering them even if you don’t have much to say.

ashley fairbanks
@ziibiing.com

There are many funds I have listed on the website. Actually getting it distributed to people who aren’t connected to any existing networks (schools, neighborhood orgs, nonprofits) is the hard part.