marina grlica 🌱

marina grlica 🌱

@dovesplants.bsky.social

🌿 queer elf with a plant shop 🌡 air plants | succulents | cactus πŸ“ San Diego, CA πŸ’Œ dovesplants@gmail.com linktr.ee/dovesplants

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marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

you wanna hear something so fucked up yall 😭😭😭 sophie from mars was the mediator between me and sam she knew he was going to post his manosphere critique and didn’t warn me. she said he was just being an idiot when he broke no contact two weeks before its release.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

instead of passing the matter along to someone more capable and experienced and also not participating in their own sex abuse cult of personality… she just fucked me over and left me with no option but to start screaming when that video dropped

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

Sam found out i was in toronto and broke the no contact we had in place to speed up the apology process so he could post his manosphere critique. his friend saw me at a bar and told him and he emails me asking to MEET UP AND TALK ALONE.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

after we broke up sam was sexually harassing me in another creators discord going into graphic detail about sexual encounters he was having im assuming in an attempt to make me jealous but all it did was trigger me into remembering the assault

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

literally could have lived my entire life never telling him this if he had just acted normal at any point. of course this was after posting all over twitter how he wanted me to die for leaving him and how evil i was for moving on.

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hoots
@hoots.bsky.social

Rapists aren’t targeting the β€œperfect little victims”. They’re doing what they think they can get away with to the people they think they can get away with doing it to.

marina grlica 🌱@dovesplants.bsky.social

i think it’s so funny how people bring up the fact i’m not a perfect victim bc im messy online like you’re so close to achieving gnosis that i am like this on purpose to challenge your sympathy. i hold grudges and shit talk and act like a man to weigh your heart like anubis.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

a lot of people who did no investigation the first time i said i was sexually assaulted and continued to work with him washed their hands of my pain by sharing a gofundme link and doing nothing else to find a resolution to the matter so something like this week wouldn’t be MY CROSS TO BEAR.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

exactly and i refused to engage in any spectacle where i would be cross examined for crying too little or too much because i had wanted the matter to be handled in private in some way that represents a commitment to socialist principles and that was never going to happen unless i started it.

Shrike@darlingshrike.bsky.social

a lot of people here, ~leftists~ included, think victims need to be curled in a ball in the foetal position rocking back and forth, only wanting therapy and for the rapist to get better UwU instead actual consequences and justice for ourselves. Worse than rape is the uppity angry survivor

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

i think it’s so funny how people bring up the fact i’m not a perfect victim bc im messy online like you’re so close to achieving gnosis that i am like this on purpose to challenge your sympathy. i hold grudges and shit talk and act like a man to weigh your heart like anubis.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

I had offered that man an opportunity to participate in transformative justice where he could take accountability for his drinking and his sexually abusive behaviors in private over a period of time that made me feel comfortable, and he drank through the entire thing and tried to force an apology οΏΌ

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marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

his refusal to take the matter seriously, and to treat me with an ounce of basic human respect, and having to go through the public, humiliation and shame ritual has compounded on top of the trauma of being assaulted by your partner. He wanted it to be over immediately and really made things worse

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

he is committed to believing he has done no wrong, and I am committed to showing the world exactly who he was to me. He’s had years to make things right and he won’t do it so it forces my hand to remind everyone he’s a piece of shit rapist.

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

I had offered that man an opportunity to participate in transformative justice where he could take accountability for his drinking and his sexually abusive behaviors in private over a period of time that made me feel comfortable, and he drank through the entire thing and tried to force an apology οΏΌ

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

he has never apologized to me. He has only made public statements denying what happened because he went on a public smear campaign when we broke up and he was so aggressive towards me for leaving before he even knew he had assaulted me

marina grlica 🌱
@dovesplants.bsky.social

The only time he offered an apology was two weeks before he was about to release a video about the manosphere and how to be a good male feminist. No one involved in the mediation felt the need to tell me about this even though they knew and I was told to treat it as him just being stupid.

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Nelle from the Leftist Cooks (She/Her)
@neillyleftistcook.bsky.social

Replying to @neillyleftistcook.bsky.social

Maybe Geller will have the decency to remove himself from the space. I think that would assuage some people's pain quite significantly. But it would also, unfortunately, make Sam's tactic of secrecy and slander all the more appealing to the worst guys with mediocre takes and a camera.