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"Already spent my yes" is such a phenomenal phrase to describe this common shitty behavior.

People taking the statement "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission" way too far.

I get the sense that she is probably a lot more successful than him, and he probably dated her mainly for her money. Considering that he was one step away from signing as her, he had been planning something like this (though maybe not the exact situation) for some time.

When someone uses the word 'loyalty' =

Yep dump him and run

She need to contact the broker herself and end this thing. FCS.

That will be your future forever or you can choose a better one and dump him.

And all that BS about how she's being disloyal to the family if she doesn't cover Mommy's mortgage...boy bye.

My stomach is turning. He literally stole her financial information, I'm floored

Run.....to the police station

This is the sort of thing I’d say don’t just dump him, alert all and sundry and then go to the cops because I am fairly certain what he is trying to pull is a crime.

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Run and press charges on the way out

She needs to freeze her credit asap and break it off with him. Let him go live with mommy.

As a first year law student I was told that the name for a co-signer on a loan is “an idiot with a pen”.

Have you taken out a mortgage? At least met with their agent or something? They generally do not let six figures go out without at least a conversation.

I've seen that movie!

Call the broker and retract the application. Go ahead and fax him to tell him you’re not part of the application. Seriously consider whether you want a long term relationship with this person

There's a reason why I had to physically show up with 100 points of photo id the last time I bought property... Too many people signed for others.

This!

Going behind your partner’s back and using her financial information to make her responsible for your family’s debt after she says no is really problematic behaviour.

Identity theft. He had no permission to take out a loan in her name for a house using illegally obtained personal information. Holy cow. God I hope she left him.

O HELL FUCKING *NO*. Dump him, lock everything down credit-wise, and BLOCK. My god the audacity. This is fraud, flat out, and her (hopefully ex-partner) is a giant liar working in concert with his Mom. His Mom's issue with finances is NOT hers to solve. RUN. NOW.

Interesting how she's the bad guy if she says no when he KNOWS he went behind her back to do all this (and chose to do so because he knew she wouldn't sign on willingly). It's sickening how often people use the "better to ask for forgiveness than permission" strategy.

That's reason for imeediately ending the relationship. And just to clear this up, his solution for not throwing away his money was to throw away his money PLUS her money ... did I read that correctly?

WOW. As you stated, this is fraud. She should get out, change all passwords and consider placing a fraud alert on her credit report with the credit agencies. (This is the process in Canada. I don't know where she lives.) Because they will DEFINITELY use her as a cosigner.

Tell his mom to sell her house and get an apartment then break up with him.

Anyone else thinks that the broker is on the game too, because why else would he not contact her directly in regards to the loan?

He has her social security number!! Kick him out, change the locks, let him try to rent a place with mommy, because I bet it was her credit rating that got them into that apartment. Tell mutual friends he may try to defraud. Of course, do all the other things suggested here, too. Wow. Just wow.

Ewwww. Girl, run.

Yeah she should stop pressuring him to contact the broker ..... And find the info and contact him herself. I would NOT trust whatever he would tell him, but I bet the broker would get rid of all her stuff fast as lightning if she tells him it was given to him without her permission...

Either you are also on the deed or you run like hell! Call the broker yourself and get that sorted. It’s a very BFD!

Grifters gonna grift. Mom plants the seed with the doomsday talk, BF tests the waters by asking about co-signing himself. When she doesn’t take the bait, BF goes behind her back expecting her to comply or planning forgery. She would have been on the hook for the loan in the end.

She needs to lock down all her finances, call the police and contact a lawyer. What he did is a crime and now that he has all of her information, what's to keep him from using it in the future?

I do realise that my values differ from most peoples', and therefore a lot of people wouldn't attribute a lot of worth to me. But the beauty of selfworth is that it requires nobody else's judgement but one's own.

I'm aware that they can.

I wholeheartedly agree. However, there's still the majority that won't.... and it's worrisome.

Shit contact the broker directly and say if any of this goes through you'll contact the police for Fraud and Theft.

That’s financial fraud. Report it ASAP.

He’s a liar and a fraud…get out now and contact the broker demanding deletion of all of your information

Lock down your credit, get an STI test, and be glad you never scrambled your DNA with that loser

This guy is about to clean you out. Next, you will wake up in an alley missing a kidney. Girl, you in danger.

He got the info from a file on her laptop, so he does have access to that indeed!

Definitely dump him and his baggage. Call the law enforcement and charge him for fraud. A partner with morals doesn't do shit like this.

A boy mom treating his girlfriend like a wallet to help his overreaching mom, why does this keep happening?

Go for it. I stole it a decade or so ago somewhere online. It’s visceral 😆

RUN girl

Police!!!

yup, dump him he, and his mom, may have just ruined YOUR credit