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Right, because the parents, themselves are NEVER the issue. Always the solution. 🙄

I didn't need a therapist to tell me to cut off my parent. All it took was a friend telling me how she was always emotionally drained after visiting her parents and always felt like she was walking on eggshells. It opened my eyes that I deserved better than that

THERAPISTS? satire writes itself I swear.

Is Katie Miller saying Rome fell because of therapy?

Ah yes. Nero, of course… sitting on his therapist’s couch while Rome burns.

Who are these "growing number of researchers"?

Thank you. It is. We were very close for most of my life, especially Mother. Journaling has helped enormously in working through my emotions. You're very kind.

I would be surprised if 1/3 of all parents have had children stop talking to them. This is 1/3 of those parents who responded to a survey. Sure, they blame someone else. Bad parents do that.

The Miller spawn will take after Fred and Rose West's kids and fucking change their names and dip...

I really hope you have supportive people with you x

You are correct. It told me everything. Thank you. 😊 My husband and our 2 adult children are incredibly supportive. I count my blessings daily.

And the answer is: no parents are responsible for children cutting off contact. People need to realise they are responsible for their relationships. If you are horrible then they are not required to stay in contact with you.

😂🤣😂

Elon so obviously dislikes his adult children, so why does he care? All he gives a shit about is the optics.

Quite clear now that having a trillion dollars doesn't make someone happy

You grow up thinking the abuse from your parents is normal because it's the only thing you know. Then you process trauma, understand that it wasn't your fault, and break free from your abusive parents. There IS cause and effect--but it's healthy.

I'm so sorry. You absolutely made the right move.

Too much wealth and power reduces empathy. There is research to back it. Even the perception of having power can make a person sadistic. The powerful/super wealthy person dehumanises everyone weaker. But also, I think, there must've been something wrong with such person in the first place.

I'm convinced that at a certain point of wealth, greed becomes pathological. The threshold depends on the person.

When reality bites your ass as a parent, and your kids won't talk to you, blaming the therapist is the biggest deflection and rationalization of all. "Couldn't be me, could it? Impossible! It's those damn therapists, stirring up trouble."

I suspect that these adult children who cut off their parents already know their parents are arseholes

Shitty parents are upset because their kids don't want to talk to them.

My kids won't talk to their narcissistic, sociopathic dad. Must destroy America!

I want to get in on the random societal atropy bandwagon too! "Every year, more and more people are liking the Starwars Prequelogy over the TrilOGy. This is how countries fall apart. It's only a matter of time before people start unironically saying Rey was well written and nuanced character."

Ethical therapists do not tell people to cut people out of their lives. However, the work done in therapy may help people realize they do not want to tolerate abusive behaviours from someone and then choose no contact.

families are like an appendix, they're nice to have and can occasionally provide some support to you in case of emergencies, but the minute that shit starts going septic you cut that motherfucker out of your god damn life

Maybe the kind of person who 'believes' a therapist is the reason their kids are going no contact is ALSO the kind of person one would not want to contact. 🤔

My dad(92) told me the other day that my sister, who has mental health problems, was in therapy. Again. His main worry? That she might say(lie) to the therapist that he had been very 'authoritarian'. I looked him dead in the eye: "But you were authoritarian" He quit the subject.

Ofcourse its always easier to blame the therapist! Bad parents often will not or cannot (I had 2 of those) grasp the fact they were bad parents.

Is Katie speaking out in advance before her kids stop speaking to her and the ghoul?

Nobody goes low/no contact for shits and giggles, it happens after a long, long time of terrible behaviour. And ya know what? These parents are only embarrassed that their shittiness didn't stay behind closed doors, not their actual words and actions. Also: Musk and Miller are both hot garbage.

I cut my mother off when she started to tell people I was faking epilepsy, she decided her PhD in health and social care meant she was qualified to. I have a clinical diagnosis, thanks to my neuro not liking that my mother was doing that. She kept testing till we got the positive EEG

The beginning of my escape from my mom's control: she demanded to sit in on a session with my therapist so she could say what I was and was not allowed to discuss. Next session, therapist gave me some options, one of which changed my life, but the big thing was an adult agreeing I needed to escape.

Figures…

Therapists are just like midwives. An important thing has to happen, they are there to help it along.

The barbarians are inside the house, they often go by the colloquial "Dad"!

This is not a criticism of you, just the meme. The first part is perfect, but I find the phrases "let that sink in" and "think about it" really annoying. They imply the listener is too stupid to understand without rumination.

Well, he constantly misgenders his daughter, and ignores his disabled children until dragged to court - of both public option and the legal variety. Maybe he’s just a twatwaffle.

The rapists hate therapists because they have a space after "the" and therapists don't 😜 Sorry, had to be done

Rome fell because of all the therapists who told the Romans to get no contact with narc mom and dad!

The right wing claiming there's mental health crisis, not a gun problem. Then also claim that therapy is bad. Wow.

If the Millers’ kids, against all genetic & environmental odds, are somehow capable of decency someday, their parents will blame their estrangement on the therapists who tried to repair the damage of personality-disordered monsters.

It's the wrong question. Are PARENTS the reason their kids go no contact with them? Yep. Therapists just give them the tools to say 'No more'.

They just don't want people understanding what's going on in their rotten brains.

Rome had therapists? Or is this shade for those pesky philosophers? 😂😂

…though that would make a hilarious Drunk History/Our Flag Is Death limited series…😎😂

My father once, in a drunken rage, told me he was "going to spend [my] inheritance and leave [me] with nothing." I calmly replied "It's your money, do whatever you like with it." It was not the fawning acquiesce he'd been expecting and obviously surprised him. He was embarrassed the next day.

"1/3 of parents believe their child won't speak to them..." Hard doubt right here. Did they miss a qualifier? 1/3 of *estranged* parents, perhaps? It's absolutely false that 1/3 of parents are estranged from their children, and the qualifier fucking matters.

Maybe be a decent parent and treat your child like a person who is allowed to be themselves and they will stay in contact. Worked with my mom and I when I didn't become a scientist and turned out too asexual and broke to have kids of my own.

I will continue to say this. Cutting family off is as old as family. What's new is we all openly discuss it. In 1989 when we found out my uncle had a whole ass other family I didn't go to school and tell everyone. We kept that shit a secret because it was shameful.

Who cares about Katie Miller’s side piece?

maybe it's just me but every shitty boomer I ever heard blames all their shitty behaviours on their shitty parents as it it's some valid excuse for them being shitty but oh if you should cut them off for being shitty so you don't become shitty too, that's a problem is it??