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@deskitty.bsky.social
🔞 I (re)post NSFW things! Also, streams will be crossed. they/them. stray cat. sub. Professional computer gremlin, recreational abuser of type systems, expert at falling over. Enjoyer of earnestness and big talks. NorCal. Early 40s. 😸 / ΘΔ / 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
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Oh, and if you need to map this to the Greater Goings On: This is literally why "weirdos" works politically. It's a refusal to participate in the premise. The "concerns" are invalid; their intentions are malicious, and the outcomes are toxic. You don't *prove* that. You talk as if it's *proven*.
Recognize when an interaction is optional and requires you or your group's consent, and revoke that participation and consent when that's the healthy path forward for you. Don't allow yourself to be hurt because you felt compelled to play by invisible rules. Take your damn ball and go home.
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Actually: I would like a second opinion on this PR. If you're familiar with LLMs and understand enough CSS to be dangerous, DM me?
*heavy sigh* I hate that LLMs mean I now have to be suspicious of new contributions to Tab Stash. I got a PR where I explicitly told the person beforehand not to use AI, and it had a few obvious problems with it that suggest to me they didn't even look at the output before posting it.
New avatar get! Super happy with how this came out, @captyns.bsky.social nailed it on the first try. <3 The old one had a good run (since 2014 or so), and I still love it, but I've been wanting something that feels more "me" for a while now, especially to match the new refsheet.
Apparently having a not-yet-expired Nitro subscription means ... I get to see MORE ads! For Best Buy's SPECIAL OFFER for Nitro subscribers! Apparently nobody at @discord.com stopped to think that maybe the reason people pay for Discord is so they DON'T SEE ADS. They have lost the plot.
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Replying to @chevyray.dev
The thing that really got me to start doing it was someone smarter than me telling me that it was anti community to only give care and not allow myself to receive it, because it has to go both ways and I was depriving people I loved the chance to help me. I got mentally judo'd so hard lol
Anyway, I had ramen with @biggreenlzrd.bsky.social last night. He's one such friend. We've only seen each other a few times this year, but every time, it's always lovely—we can talk about anything and everything for hours and it never feels like enough time. I cherish those moments.
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This thread makes a lot of sense, and is why I kind of hate that Bluesky seems to be the one place all my friends went to after LiveJournal and then Twitter died. I miss LiveJournal. And Cohost for that matter (though Cohost had its own problems).
i have a new theory of Social Media Bad. a lot of ink has been spilled about the addictive qualities of twitterlike social media, including many allegations of developer use of "dark patterns" and self conscious "engagement maximizing", but i'd like to propose something a little more mundane.
This phrase—"looking for an action that feels proportional to [my] emotional state" really accurately captures what I've been struggling with re. my exes. I have not been able to find something constructive to do that actually releases that energy. This is why I needed lorazepam last night.
I think what happens is that hurt folks are looking for an action that feels proportional to their emotional state. A big internet mob feels comforting and powerful. It feels so good to be heard and activate the army! It's a big boom.
This phrase—"looking for an action that feels proportional to [my] emotional state" really accurately captures what I've been struggling with re. my exes. I have not been able to find something constructive to do that actually releases that energy. This is why I needed lorazepam last night.
I think what happens is that hurt folks are looking for an action that feels proportional to their emotional state. A big internet mob feels comforting and powerful. It feels so good to be heard and activate the army! It's a big boom.
This phrase—"looking for an action that feels proportional to [my] emotional state" really accurately captures what I've been struggling with re. my exes. I have not been able to find something constructive to do that actually releases that energy. This is why I needed lorazepam last night.
I think what happens is that hurt folks are looking for an action that feels proportional to their emotional state. A big internet mob feels comforting and powerful. It feels so good to be heard and activate the army! It's a big boom.
This phrase—"looking for an action that feels proportional to [my] emotional state" really accurately captures what I've been struggling with re. my exes. I have not been able to find something constructive to do that actually releases that energy. This is why I needed lorazepam last night.
I think what happens is that hurt folks are looking for an action that feels proportional to their emotional state. A big internet mob feels comforting and powerful. It feels so good to be heard and activate the army! It's a big boom.
Happy birthday @wolfwithdances.bsky.social! I've known him for forever and he is one of the most dedicated, community-minded folks I know. We've known each other through a lot of life's twists and turns, and I'm happy to have him as a friend.
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