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A tough thing in explaining to people why having children is enjoyable is that all the bad stuff is very easy to explain (lost sleep, lost time, more sickness, less sex, etc. etc.) whereas most of the really good stuff whispers.

Because I realized I was trans, and after that living as a man felt impossible, rather than merely miserable.

Happy coming out day to all! Coming out of the closet is something we do for ourselves, but it is also an act of immense kindness to all. Everyone lives better in a world where everyone feels free to live as their authentic selves. Without others coming out, I would never have found myself.

I had convinced myself that I was more or less reading as generic woman to the cis public, and this morning was a depressing reality check.

At a parent volunteer thing, and I've never been more 'they'd'. It's at a violently transphobic university, so the third gendering feels especially fun. Sigh...

In order of reading- that middle row really should have gotten me to gender questioning, but alas. And yeah, I DO NOT LIKE that my intellectually honest answer here includes Mormon propaganda by Orson Scott Card.

Portrait of a girl who should be allowed to not go back to work because I don't wanna ...

A rather typical dysphoria Bingo board. While filling it out, i kept thinking "well sure, but no more than everyone else...." Oh honey. Old habits die hard.

Amen. I like my basic first name- I'm a basic girl. And I changed my last name to match my wife and daughter, which feels entirely right. But I tried to use my middle name to appease my mom, which didn't work, and I regret not taking the chance to get a little weird.

Reading Cameron's Memory Alpha page just makes me grin like an idiot at random details. A trans girl standing in for Jeri Ryan! Playing Kira on a promotional tour! APPEARING as a Trill on posters for the Vegas ride!!!

I feel somehow defensive of the size of my dick at my "begging doctors to banish my dick" appointment.

It is not surprising that a number of super cool looking trans girls have passed through the Kaiser LA plastic surgery waiting room as I wait for my consult, but damn...

Bottom surgery consult day! Or as I will likely come to call it "Drive for hours to have doctors tell me I can't get bottom surgery because BMI rules all" day!

My Nine Games that made me who I am chart says many things about me, but none louder than "I had a computer but not a video game system growing up." (M:TG is Shandalar, and Neverwinter Nights is specifically the A Dance With Rogues module)

Similarly, traditional accounts of the AIDS epidemic that focus on the genocide against "gay and bi men" gnaw at my soul. Especially coming from genuinely decent people. Erasure within erasure within atrocity.

This is very good advice, with the caveat that not doing an emotional thing because you understand that it *does you absolutely no good* can be hard as fuck.

The pairing of floppy haired Gambit and floppy haired Nightcrawler is pure delight.

I was feeling really smug about how well I had endured a morning of lip electrolysis....and then as I parked I realized my electrologist had gotten turned around and only done half my scheduled time. Oops.

As a married late-transitioning trans lesbian, I did my part for bi visibility by making my wife's bisexuality VERY visible. Bisexuality is awesome.

Pioneering new horizons of fuck this guy.

I always call it “gender-affirming misogyny”

shoutout to infinite mac, without which this would not have been possible www.them.us/story/early-...

Heh, 'Mel Brooks thinks Yoda is Yiddish' is both genuinely charming, and lays such a clear path towards the racist weirdness of Jar-Jar and the Nemoidians (good god, the Nemoidians) in The Phantom Menace.

I'm in a kind of ambiguous semi-passing place where I can't tell if the understated reaction I get to telling basically-ok cis people I'm trans is "yeah, obviously" or "Wait, what? Be cool....be cool....treat this as not a big deal....".

Option C, so fucking confused. But also impressed? In a lot of ways, I have the life that 'he' didn't let himself even dream of. And not just the queer parts (though yeah, the queer parts- being a mom especially)- my being a TCG designer would blow his mind.

My wife received her new book in the mail yesterday (yay!), and the acknowledgements is the first time I'm being named and gendered as myself in a real-ass publication thing-y. It's pretty cool.

1.) I strongly believe Dems should hold the line on trans rights 2.) I believe we should call out any of them who actually sell us out 3.) The fact Actual Literal Trans Woman Sarah McBride gets accused of plotting trans genocide daily makes the accusations people make on here lack credibility

For decades, folks response to this has been "maybe just make more of The Muppet Show?" And then last year they *did that* and it was good and it was popular, and we are still in the same damn place....

That Angel somehow made this human being unappealing and dull is a crime against something or other.

We've been reading the kid the Warrior Cats books at bedtime (for us olds, Redwallish but cats?), and she ripped the book out of my hand when she realized there was introductory reference material to pore over. Adult fandom can suck, but kid fandom is magic.

I had an absolutely lovely weekend at the beach with my two favorite people in the world, and it really sucks that looking back on it I fixate on hating how I look. Fucking brain worms.

Nancy 9/7/26 … Happy Labor Day 🛠️

Post a picture of you from another era. (Playing Cladwell in a college production of Urinetown- in retrospect the most fun I ever had embodying masculinity because if was draggy and camp as fuck)

After a very frustrating week, heading to the beach for the weekend to forget about the nonsense.

I'd hurt a lot of good things about Adults as a hangout sitcom (absolutely my thing), and then episode 2 has straight up rape apologia as a B plot. Fuck off culture.

If you are ever watching a movie and a male character looks sad, you can lean over to your viewing partner and quietly whisper "he's experiencing the male loneliness crisis." You can do this an infinite number of times, and also have it done to you, and it is always equally funny. Just so you know.

It's frustrating that two years into transition (and 40 years into living) I still have a lot of days where I feel like I *want* to be a woman rather than days of just being me. It is admittedly a comfort that there is never a day where I want to be a man. I mean, ew.

I started playing Zero Company, somehow my first big RPG-ish video game since transition, and it's a pretty delightful rush styling my avatar like me? Don't get me wrong, it's the same styling I've used for RPG protagonists for over a decade, but now IT MEEEEE!!!

I am not a good driver. My reflexes are garbage, and the kind of concentration driving requires lines up poorly with my skills. BUT I USE MY FUCKING TURN SIGNALS! I DON'T DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT THIS SPECIFIC TURN MERITS USING THEM, I JUST PRESS THE FUCKING BUTTON!

Good thread. RHPS I'm largely ambivalent on- Tim Curry is such a great and fully committed screen presence that it kind of cancels out the script in my brain? For me this work is Hedwig- a beloved text for so many queer people that twigs all my "Is this how the cis see us?" ick. I hate it!

Jesus body, the decision to make today a combined migraine AND weirdly-intense-penis-dysphoria day was fucking rude.

Look, this isn't about me, but as 40th birthday presents go, Dolly dieing at 80 is not the best. May I spend the next 40 a fraction as well as she did.

Taking a look at my every day makeup, two years into transition. I think it's in an OK place? pretty subtle, and I at least do see some feminization (and looking less like a tomato). I do need to start defaulting to a bolder lip though...

Petra Parker meets Peter

My daughter just told me that Nimona is her favorite movie. The gay agenda advances (and in this case, lets me not watch Shrek 4 for the sixth time).

My rare experimentation with pants. I do not trust them.

My electrologist today told me that I definitely convey "that's just some woman" in my day to day vibes, which is especially affirming as she is the one person who always sees me without makeup, and moreover was incinerating a mustache follicle while saying this.