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AI has been foisted upon us, for sure, but one reason it lands with so many is that LLMs *feel like* a solution for loneliness/estrangement/isolation: People who crave feedback and iteration but lack the courage or social capital to get it. Showing a first draft to someone is exposure. /1

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I can't get past the idea of people making emotional connections with AI as if it were another human. It's one thing to be fooled by a chatbot masquerading as a person. But once someone knows it's AI, treating it as a friend can only lead to emotional ruin in the long run.

How is it different from John Lennon's murderer creating a kingdom of tiny friends in his wall? Both are examples of people breaking with reality. AI isn't conscious. It's programmed to mimic consciousness to seduce the user into a bonding experience that can become every bit as addictive as heroin.

But maybe that's the goal of the AI companies--to hook the user on their product and render them psychologically dependent until they're willing to pay any price to hold onto that relationship. The first step, of course, is to convince the public that their AI is conscious.

Some tech bros have already floated this idea. If they succeed in convincing the public their AI has achieved consciousness, more of us may be willing to adopt their delusion and forge that bond. While they may find that profitable, it will ultimately only harm their users and society writ large.

In this economy, everything is high-stakes. No one can afford to make a mistake--surveys of college students who use AI say they resort to it bc grades are too important not to. Others have suggested that no-grade, holistic evaluations could help but I wonder: That fear of exposure might linger. /2

No different for adults. You can joke about "male loneliness epidemic" but the reality is that it's just an epidemic, period. Almost a third of Americans say they are "always" or "frequently" lonely. 40% say "no one the past few weeks took more than just a few minutes to ask how they are doing." /3

I'm blending "fear of exposure" and "loneliness" here; they're inextricable. A sense of comfort around people is the solution to both: the idea that you can be yourself without fear of rejection or failure. And LLMs simulate *exactly* that. There is not such a thing as "bothering" an LLM. /4

An LLM will look at a first draft and tell you it's good. An LLM will hear you out about a crazy theory or a minor inconvenience. An LLM will never, ever judge you, not even for the most outlandish ideas...which is a bug as much as a feature, but to the individual user, that's just validation. /5

100%. And since we live in a digital panopticon, every single incident is recorded forever. Laughing at cringe is now the norm. No one tries and fails and has to move on from it. Everyone becomes developmentally stunted. Dating is harder. Self improvement dwindles. Why not ask a robot?

This is why I wrote this yesterday:

John Holland@johnholland.bsky.social

I went to Berkeley, but I almost supplied to UC Santa Cruz. At the time, UC Santa Cruz did not have grades. Instead, professors wrote narratives for each student at the end of the quarter. That attracted me. It seems like the competition and the inherent stakes of grades are root causes here.

The fundamental problem is that the companies making these products are doing so in such a way as to prey on feelings of loneliness and isolation, and further isolating those they prey on.

I always wonder how long it took to realize their validation process was emphasizing convincingness over correctness, creating an automated con man. There's definitely group chats where it was described as exactly that.

Not just an automated con man, but one specifically designed to create an addiction based on leveraging and increasing a user's insecurity, that can then be used to extract rents from people addicted to it. It's wholly immoral.

It has all been feeling very non consensual for a bit now And certainly not free, prior and informed consent in any traditional sense of the word Look at the number of TechBroligarchs gathered around the (notably 🍑 shaped table) to decide the fate of the world & their serial sexual predator“boss”

AI is a tool to be used judiciously. It is a tool like all apps. They can help humans but should not be the be all and end all of knowledge. If I were teaching IT apps again, I'd show it up for what it is. It would be such fun!

Ah you haven’t gotten the memo regarding the debunking of the “It’s just a neutral tool” It has always been a bit of a “it’s not guns that kill people its people” take anyway (Not @ medical advancement use but still @ hospital admin/hr use)