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"I was raised this way" & "I was just following orders" r two of the stupiest excuses ever uttered.

Somehow my parents neglected to teach me these things. I also have absolutely no desire to rule over anyone or anything. I haven’t fit in ever.

Unlearn generalizations...

Unfortunately people dont gain magical sefl reflective insight into the moral shortcomings they were raised with just because they turn 18. People don’t change, they are CHANGED. This isn’t a personal responsibility thing. This is a social responsibility thing.

IMPOSSIBLE for christians.

yep. Everything, literally everything an adult does except forced-birthing is their choosing to do it.

I was lucky. My parents didn't teach me any of that crap.

Unlearn the rape culture.

Just learn to be a decent human being. Wake up every day, remembering to be a decent human being. Respect for all. 

Thank you. 🙏🏼

sadly to say... the adult brain is so hardwired... it is near impossible to shock it enough to rewire.... I mean it might be possible if you spiked the drinking water and pop...etc... with enough LSD to blast new neuropathyways in their heads

If you make a conscious effort to not be like that, your children won’t have to because it’ll just come naturally to them.

Straight up entitled hateful losers…. And then there are those who feed off all this mess and buy elections to continue spreading their hate and keeping everyone impoverished

At least try.

I decided to part ways with my 3 older brothers a few years ago. One of them made a nasty comment about a gay couple looking at the house across the street from him. He said 'that's how we were raised'. I didn't bother reminding him that I grew up there too. So stupid.

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Add misogyny.👍

It ain't that fuckin' easy, but it can be done. Do better. Work on it.

EXACTLY! GROW THE FUCK UP.

I love this!

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It's way easier to find cohorts who won't berate, hence the rise of Trump, who forgives all sins. The only way negative feedback works is when it is part of a plan for civil war.

And unlearn your transphobia. Just become a decent human being.

THIS!!!

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Lots of things our parents or other adults did we couldn't control. In hindsight, it had an impact that gave us the mindset for those ways and things not to be repeated by us in our adulthood. On point and word up. Break the cycle, choose to be better, and or to do better 😌 you choose your destiny

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If you want all this 'unlearning', start caring how it is learned. Or what it amounts to. Because simply calling it evil or fascism is stopping where it becomes interesting. Approach with an interest to understand, because we rarely do. #empathy

If only…

Also. Don't support private equity! How many stores in your Malls are gone? Heads up! Support Elizabeth Warren against private equity in her Private Equity Looting Act. Long past time for laws like this. substack.com/@senatorwarr...

One of the reasons we canceled our NYTimes subscription is because they employed David French whose soul job at the times was to try to convince everyone that the southern U.S. isn’t the treasonous confederate shithole it appears to be to everyone else on the planet. We eventually got sick of it!

truth

We all want to be better people. What makes you so qualified to be angry with everybody else?

learn history first

Clasism is actually good 😎

Classism... nah. I'll hang onto that one. If you're in the piece of shit class and engage in all the other categories I'm going to treat and judge you like a piece of shit.

Unlearn the xenophobia

Keep ‘em stupid Keep ‘em angry

It’s a progression Your parents should have aspired to be better than your grandparents You should be rising up above them And investing in the next generations to fly higher than you ever did

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And grow the fuck up!

YOU DAMN STRAIGHT! I willfully left all that shit behind when I first left the house I was raised in.

yep...it's not always the right thing to do to forgive...some people never earn our forgiveness, nor do they even try to.

We're adults now - with free choice. If your parents taught you all this bs, UNLEARN it. Choose to do better.

Well said.

Fuck that.

Okay, that's fair enough. I can understand compulsive editing.

It's not the problem, but it doesn't help, either. This message sounds better, more carefully thought out, without f-bombs. I don't mind four-letter words when they're called for, but here they suggest a level of anger that doesn't match the construction of a persuasive argument.

⚡️🫶⚡️ youtu.be/I0FFSBiYdMg?...

Yes!!!

Your observation skills are terrible.

How disappointing. Difficult as it can be at times, I try not to let my observations of some men's behavior make me into a man-hating bitch.

At what have you learned from observing white people?

My dad was a product of his time. My mom was prejudiced against Asians and non-christians, or even people with different kinds of christian faith. But I grew up around people of every colour and different beliefs. I learned that just because things were done one way doesn’t mean you have to follow.

I tell my kids when they turn 30 that whatever they are is now them, not their Mom or Dad. They've had plenty of years to grow out of our biases and ideals. "Try to keep the good stuff."

My dad raised me to be a right wing Catholic, a racist, a homophobe, and an anti-Semite. I'm now a lefty atheist, polyamorous bisexual, and a proud enemy of bigotry in all its forms, with wonderful friends from many cultural heritages. Unlearning stuff can be hard, painful work. Worth it.

Amen!

I like this, but they won't

Yes let's gooo

Exactly, it's time to grow up! Just sayin'

There is no excuse for it!

And ableism. Thats still a huge issue.

How many times did I hear, "Joseph, you are a bold, bold boy " from the nuns?

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... whether you learned it at church or not!

Thank you, and I would add unlearn the transphobia and xenophobia too.

This is how I treat ppls grandparents when I meet them I don't give a shit how old you are, you're alive.. you can learn.

I have spent my life unlearning all these things. Your post inspires me to also unlearn the overuse of profanity. Thank you.

HELL 🔥 YES!!!

Wouldn't it be nice if this had been pushed harder earlier so things didn't deteriorate as badly as this?

It’s worse than this youtu.be/2176dnVR02E?... Democrats are not geared up for this. These rich white men have a plan and it is in action now. Power to the people or we become South Africa.

Totally agree.

Agree. I could add “unlearn your willful ignorance”.

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Adult rule #1: look at the world and decide for yourself Adult rule #2: accept consequences for what you decided in #1

Yes, yes, yes!

Very bad parenting

Same. Apparently it’s hard or rare to come from extreme racist bigots and become an activist for the better ways

Yes, fucking grow up.

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One more: Unlearn the ageism.

Rawls’ veil of ignorance is a powerful way to work through this. Helped me a lot

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Saying that shoplifters don't have a moral compass and comparing them to racists is 100% dragging them.

When someone is acting in accordance to the dictates of their deity, what reason do you think you can you provide, what argument do you have to offer, to convince them to do otherwise?

People are intellectually and emotionally lazy. Change is hard work, knowing better means taking responsibility and that's just so haaaaaaaard. Too many people get a kick out of crossing lines, breaking things, raising a row. Something wrong in the genetic code?

Once I exited the backwater town whence I came, went to college, graduate school, I became a more conscientious, reflective, ethical person. Deeply.

Tuff 💙👍🏻

Yes, you can!!!

Only just followed you back now, sorry for not doing it earlier.

I was raised in a racist family back in the late ‘50s and 60’s It can be done

Unlearn relying on politicians and parties to have answers to make your life easier.

I dumped some folks after the orange fuck won ago...their is no hope in fixing their stupidity.....they whine and complain about everything and grift like no one else....

And have benefitted from merely being melanin deficient

I know it's hard. But do it anyway. Any progress is better than remaining an asshole, and we've got the whole rest of our lives to keep trying.

Thank you. This is how, as a child, before I was 7, my parents taught me all of this with one simple question, do you want that behavior done to you because someone doesn't like something about you. It's a simple lesson. Old school blue collar Catholics! Please vote blue for everyone.

My 77-year-old dad told me this summer that he realized he was raised in a racist bigoted home and he is trying to do better by checking his thoughts. #hope

Only kids are victims. Adults being an asshole is volunteering.

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Do better

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Right fucking on. Grow the fuck up people. Get over yourselves.

Unlearn the misandry.

Exactly!

AND UNLEARN SPECIESISM

I was so sure that Americans were finally outgrowing all of it. I was proved very wrong. Disappointing, and sad.

If "be nice to people" is a polarizing statement then the poles are in wrong place.