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Same, or just "the look"

That's the truth!! 😂

Me too

I was that soldier!

Was the house white?

😁😁

…and mom never had to get to the number ‘3’.

Right??!

And at some point you realize that your parents were full of 💩.

"Oh, you're bored? I've got lots for you to do." "You want something to cry about?" These and other famous lines echo in history :)

It still echoes in my brain.

Yep.

Wait? Are you implying that there is another kind? Isn't the whole point of parenthood becoming the one who issues the "because I said so" instead of the one stymied by the edict?

Yeah.... and I'm so glad the next generation of parenting has stopped that! Questioning authority is a MUST!

The only other option was; My Roof, My Rules --- ☺️😆

Guilty.

Crossing my arms was considered defiance

Wonder how mom is doing in the old folks home. Haven't seen her since went on and on about why did she have to be sent away. "Because I said so"

We should try this on Trump!

Some of these replies... I wanna tell several dozen people to lighten up.

Me too, although my Mum never actually got around to having my guts for garters I came close once or twice!

When I was a kid that would be the last thing said to me by my parents especially my mom!

My adult kids still mind when I give them my " LOOK"...I learned that from my mother...she had that too especially at the dinner table where she also had a wooden cookspoon next to her plate...I didn't go that far...

And my comeback was, “I didn’t ask to be born!😭 admittedly, my childhood defenses needed work.

e moi

Mom was a lot easier than my dad. They were the good cop and the bad cop. My dad was very strict; my mom was not. The report card went directly to Mom. Always.

Mom didn't have to say it; she just made "The Face."

Yup.

I sure remember that one.

"Because I said so" is the essence of Trickle Down Syndrome (TDS). "God said it, I believe it, that settles it." "Trump said it, I believe it, that settles it." "I said so, you have to accept it, that settles it." There's no room for critical questions in a mind closed to other POVs.

You must be funny at parties lol

✋

Yep

Me too!!

My mom did use it a couple of times, but usually on stuff I was arguing about that had already been discussed a million times. Though when she started living with me and I was taking care of her. I responded back with her "Cause I said so." and she glared at me and then said "I deserved that."

Mine too. It made me resolve not to use that phrase with my own kids.

I'm really thankful my boomer Hippie parents didn't roll like that. Of course there were times where it was obvious that the answer is no, period. But they wanted us to understand why. Most of the time I pled my case the answer was still no 🤣, but they did really good to discuss it first with us 🩷❤️

till it wasn't, communication of why is more educational and doesn't raise someone that is fine with authoritarianism

I would not have dared ...

Certain power gradients are appropriate and must be used overtly

Yep. And sometimes that statement was made clear with just a look…they didn’t even need to say it.

😂 I did, too.

Sorry

You'd be a better parent if you unleashed the BISS bomb after five or six "why's" instead of the first.

The 1950s

Still very much a part of the process in my house

How about “I’ll give you something to cry about !”

Yeap

So did I and it has caused me lifelong psychological damage.

me too

Didn't we all? Children should be seen, not heard. Gen-X life.

Me too, ir because I'm the mother.

Hell Yeah!!!

Me too

We had a calendar marked with which child was washing dishes and which child was drying them - every day. ---

Done! Shalom

I still do #DictatorWife

I grew up in a house where if you were told to do something and you didn't do it, you got a pot up side the head. You responded, oh, you meant take the trash out now. You learn quickly to do what you are told, my cousin learned that the hard way. Also "because I said so" worked as well.

Except for ruining all respect for my parents.

Which is kind of intellectually toxic IMO. Kids should be taught that their decisions should be based on expressible, rational reasons. That said, my kid probably has it easy because I can't in good conscience punish him for something I can't actually prove he's responsible for.

Me too

You were not the only one.✋🏼

ok boomer

I damm sure heard that one...more than once.

mine was more like i brought you into this world; i can take you out!

I've never complied in my entire life with a 'because I said so'. Everyone, even children, deserves an explanation when they ask for one imo

Yeah, that was the cue for complete breakdown of diplomacy and start running away from the flying slippers…

Same. Doesn't seem to apply in the house I live in now. The one I paid for.

Yep, the 70s were glorious

so did i followed by wait until your father gets home

That is so not funny.

After about a dozen times of answering why, I would revert to "because I'm the meanest dad in the world".

Me too 😂😂

oh no, when that line was used by my mom it was usually the start of the fight. when she pulled out something to spank us THAT was the end of the argument.

As a single parent I raised my daughter to believe that if I were making a rule or decision that she disagreed with she should challenge me on it and try to persuade me otherwise. That way she learned to reason out her own decisions. She's now a successful fantasy writer.

Yea and why I dated abusive asshole men for most of my 20s and didn’t think I’d see my 30th birthday. Lol

And yeah, sure.. your mom would tell you to take out the trash with a single paper towel.. sure.. I believe you.. 🙄

This isn't a one off thing.. it's a pattern of behavior. I don't assume that every "why?" is that.. what the fuck is wrong with you ?

😢

My mother could give me a look that caused me to stop talking mid syllable 🤐.

It's OK when it's your family's house, but it's not OK if it's the White House.

My eldest brother who is younger than I. Was attempting to play his guitar a Christmas gift. Our mother said stop playing. When he didn't she asked in a sticker tone, or I'll break it over your back. He didn't take the hint. He got a New guitar for his birthday the following month. 🇮🇪🇪🇺

We didn’t stop arguing because those words worked. We stopped because violence was the next step.

Don't answer back! Get that look off your face! You're going to be black and blue when I've finished with you You won't be able to sit down for a week.... Blah blah blah

Followed quickly by, I don't have to have a reason. I'd mumble, Yes you do have to have a reason while quickly walking away in case She heard Me!!

🤣

Or do I need to get my belt?.....

And that’s why the parents got put in The cheapest home possible

So your parents were boomers who didn’t give a shit about who you actually were. They taught you to talk so they can tell you to shut up.

Fascism starts at home. Haven’t spoken to my magat parents in years after they pulled this BS on my daughter (their grandkid) during the orange felon’s first term. Have a good reason and articulate it. Use non-physical corrective measures. Kids still hate it but less trauma later in life.

Yup!

Kids should be afraid of strangers, not of their own parents.

Anyone remember how mad you got when you got hurt doing something your mom told you NOT to do cuz you'd get hurt?

Yep, that's what the 70's were like back then.

Brittle parenting. It outs you as capricious, and willing to use outsized coercion at the drop of a hat. You demand to be seen as an enemy not an ally and wonder why your children dislike and fear you.

One of the terrible things escaping from my mouth (as a parent). In my defence: only after 900 explanations ;-)

Why do people talk like this is a good thing? I taught my kids why I did things, why I decided, and encouraged them to debate (within reason). Turns out, sometimes I had missed something or their idea was better.

"Might makes right" was often the end of the verbal part of the interaction.

My siblings and I also heard "stop your crying before I give you something to cry about".

Might have ended the discussion but rarely the topic.

Lots of houses ran that way!

Not a phrase I like to use, as a parent. There should be a reason, even if it is “Dad doesn’t want to”.

Except that’s not the concept here. I’ve grown up around families like that and I’ve had my share of it as well. It’s not “I’ve explained this enough”, it’s “I shouldn’t have to explain it at all”, and even today I still see adults who can’t be bothered because they think kids owe them obedience.

The crossed arms are an exclamaton point.

Boomerfication of Gen x continues unabated

I say that all the time now because I realized the satisfaction my Mother felt when she said it to me. I'm also experiencing karma as my cats listen no better than I did.

Gods help you if you tried talking back to your parents when they said this. Sure fire way to get your ass handed to you.

Yep, my mom was one of those.

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Talk about setting up kids to follow irrational orders from dictators!!!

Saying so is what created the development of duct tape and ball gags

And the other one, “do as i say, not as i do”

...followed by, "Do you want me to give you something to cry about?"

Right or wrong,”because I said so” always won.