
womensagenda.com.auHelen Haines lost her legs. The media mourns Brendan Nugentโs lost potential.**_Accused attacker Brendan Nugentโs descent from rising footy star to reclusive activist._** ****
A headline courtesy of Nine.
**_Brendan Nugentโs loner life, psych ward visit and rare condition._**
A headline courtesy of News.
**_Broke, in chronic pain and anger at โpatheticโ Albo: inside the mind of Brendan Nugent_**
A headline courtesy of The Australian.
There is something deeply revealing about the way we tell stories about men accused of violence against women.
In the wake of the horrific attack on independent MP Helen Haines in which she was struck twice by a Toyota LandCruiser outside her electorate office in Wangaratta, and has since lost both her legs, the mediaโs focus has been less on the palpable risks to women in public office and more about the man who allegedly attacked her and his lost potential.
We have heard about Nugentโs childhood, his education, his academic ability, his interest in environmental activism, his football prowess, his chronic pain and his apparent isolation.
We have heard from people who knew him when he was younger; teachers who remember a โbeautifulโ kid with promise, and we have been pressed to consider who he might have been if he hadnโt ended up exactly as he is: a violent criminal.
There may be a legitimate story here about someone who appears to have struggled and the systemic failures that can occur for people with complex health needs in regional areas. But the extent to which media has zeroed in on Nugentโs biography exposes the fact that when it comes to violence against women, we really havenโt learnt that much.
Our snap reflex is still to focus on manโs lost potential when a womanโs life has been irrevocably changed or ended.
In a heart wrenching press conference yesterday outside Melbourneโs Alfred Hospital, Helenโs husband, Phil Haines, confirmed the devastating news of her second amputation. He spoke of her enormous heart and her razor-sharp mind.
His words underscored how Helenโs life in healthcare and politics, has been dedicated to serving her community. Now, her future has been violently upended in an act police have described as targeted.
It was _targeted._
En masse, women in politics have spoken out in the last few days about their own experiences and the fact they are frequently subjected to violent threats of rape and death.
Social Services Minister Tanya Plibersek spoke about threats so severe that they ended up in court. Speaking to the ABCโs _7.30_ this week, she said: โI couldnโt even count the number of death threats, rape threats that Iโve had over the years, including ones that have ended up in court.โ Still, she noted there had been a recent change in the โindustrial scaleโ of the abuse.
Plibersek also described receiving a note delivered to her home years ago in which someone said they hoped her children would die of painful cancers. This is the reality that sits behind the public-facing work of a senior female politician. She is not alone.
Independent senator Lidia Thorpe has also spoken out about the threats of gang rape she has received and the precautions she takes to protect herself, including disguise. New South Wales Opposition Leader Kellie Sloane noted similar occurrences, as did Anne Aly and several others.
These women have laid bare the truth about how choosing a political career is, in many ways, the ultimate sacrifice.
But our tendency to scour every nook for a glimmer of hope about violent men, isnโt confined to politics.
Only a couple of weeks ago, when former _The Bachelor_ star and fitness entrepreneur Sam Wood was charged with domestic violence offences, including assault and strangulation of his wife, much of the coverage veered toward how his carefully cultivated public image was in tatters, and how professional consequences might follow.
His lawyer argued that Wood should have an opportunity to rebuild his career, while headlines tracked the fortunes of the man whose brand had once been synonymous with health, family and wellbeing.
The same instinct to build empathy and create a rationale is visible in the coverage of Nugent.
As writer and advocate Tarang Chawla pointed out, the focus on Nugentโs supposed promise and personal suffering risks sidelining the victim. And that is, unequivocally, Helen Haines.
More broadly, when we feel the need to centre the promise of male perpetrators in these stories, we sideline women and the daily threat that they experience. We make it appear like an anomaly.
Women in politics are stoic beyond measure. Outside of this week, we rarely hear them recount the threats of violence they experience so often and without recourse. They get on with the job at hand, likely cognisant that should they speak up they would almost certainly be accused of playing some imaginary โgender cardโ.
But the constant threat of harm changes who feels able to participate in public life, how they do their jobs and whether they decide the cost is too high. When female politicians restrict public appearances, stop advertising community events or think twice before engaging online because of the threats they receive, the consequences extend well beyond the individual.
As Plibersek warned this week, the attack on Haines is โa terrible thing for our democracy if politicians have to separate themselves from the publicโ, we all lose out.
Social media has ramped the heat up tenfold. The ability to broadcast abuse to thousands of people, often anonymously or from behind a screen, has emboldened those who might once have kept their hostility to themselves. And when violent rhetoric is normalised, should we really be surprised that attacks like this occur?
The Governor-General, Sam Mostyn spoke alongside Phil Haines at the Alfred Hospital on Wednesday. Calling on Australians to reflect on the attack, she said we needed to โexercise our muscle of decencyโ, and learn how to โdisagree wellโ.
โWe donโt have to all agree, but we can wrestle the issue, not the person,โ Mostyn said. โWords matter, whether spoken or in written form, increasingly in the virtual world.โ
The responsibility, in other words, rests on all of us.
And, if the media is serious about telling this story well, it needs to remember and centre the women who are being threatened, the systems that are failing to protect them, and the consequences for a democracy that depends on them showing up.
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