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Absolute banger of an obituary in the Seattle Times today, rest in peace Judy

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Judy sounded like a special woman/ human being. Thank you for sharing this. I know Judy, but never knew Judy, but I have known strong, funny, matriachs who would die/ kill for their children/ grandkids... we need more Judys in this world, may she RIP and be an inspiration.

I must brag for a moment, Gma Judy’s kids all have lead baller careers. My mom, Millie Judge, just retired as a Superior Court Judge, Julia (the brilliant writer of the obituary), an attorney and law professor, Cpt. Bill Dooris a Naval F18 Commander, and Pat Dooris KGW News Anchor. She was so proud!

Oh Lizzie. Thank you. We miss our Momma and thank you all for your kindness. She was hilarious and sarcastic in life and a fierce advocate for women’s rights and protector of the abused. She refused to consider dying and so she lived to be 90 years old.

I am so sorry for your loss. Reading Judy's life story reminded me of my Grandma. She was the best. She died when I was 7, but even 40 years later, I think about her often and the great memories. May you always have sweet memories of Judy too ❤️

Fantastic contrast to the obit of the woman who abandoned her kids young and it clearly took everything they had to not write "rest in piss" and send it. Way to go Judy, you lived a full, rich life, and left enough of an impression on your kids that random strangers can now cherish your memory.

“To her children, Judy was home. She created a life where she gave us much, and we carried her high expectations along with her unflappable belief we could meet and exceed them. We felt her confidence and support for us. We knew she loved us.” Awww 🥲

Excellent passage here: "she could be maddeningly inscrutable, maybe because of her oft-repeated advisory: 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.' Judy was practiced at not saying anything at all."

"Judy valued kindness, education, curiosity, and excellent grammar. She was fluent in sarcasm and enjoyed dry humor." This is the kind of thing I want my kids to say about me when I shuffle off this mortal coil.

“Obviously, she was Catholic” is fun but the “She would want us to write here that she had options” aside is killing me

A couple of Judy’s family members are in the replies. I’m sorry for your loss, and grateful to you for letting some internet strangers share just a little bit in celebrating what sounds like a beautiful life.

timjudge.bsky.social@timjudge.bsky.social

Your comment made me teary. (I’m her son-in-law)

Wow, and just like that, the March Or May mystery is solved. All of the above of course goes for you too, Liz—thank you for sharing.

Liz Judge Miller@lizjudgemiller.bsky.social

In recent years we did. After we discovered that her real birthday was March! 😂 Always kept us on our toes!

The real story she told ONLY her grandkids was that she had a fake ID and that’s where the 2nd date came from—which is scandalous for a woman of her day, especially one who later became a parole officer for juvenile delinquent girls (that’s what they called them in the late 1950s).

Such a polite way of saying, “mom fucks.” Something about this obituary is just perfect. I think most tell you what people have done; this one tells you who she is. Sounds to me like she and her husband were fun, good people who raised their kids right.