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here we find Eliezer Yudkowsky engaging in the classic 90s and 2000s genre of “insecure straight guy getting really defensive about liking Buffy the Vampire Slayer”

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"remember, i have no emotional need to be special" oh, i know this one, this is my brother throwing a tantrum about ppl touching his bike and then declaring to the people trying to find a practical solution to his emotional flailing that he's the only one not acting emotionally.

"I have no emotional need to be special" is the sort of thing you say if you spend every moment hoping someone will notice how special you are.

On the one hand who the fk has a problem with someone liking Buffy? But on the other hand, the way he explains his own fandom of Buffy is deeply creepy. Not creepy about Buffy or about the cast members, to be fair, but creepy about his self-perception.

He almost certainly picked up that habit from the older Usenet folks. Not an uncommon tic among them. I think what we're reading is mostly a pastiche of older linguistic influences, but because those sources were buried on very niche message boards it can appear new.

The same way kids with unusual art backgrounds come out of art school, but if you really know the space you can pick out it's mostly secondhand derivation and they are faking it until they make it (which also jives with his entity history).

I can tell you who has a problem with someone liking Buffy: the elitist snobs that he associates with, who see anything that smacks of 'genre' as lowbrow and thus unworthy. Doubly so if it's a show with a woman as the lead. He's trying to justify liking the show to other terrible people.

I feel like he is one of the guys who thinks joy is a zero sum game and only can feel while sucking it out of everyone around them. Via the only way he knows. Being insufferable pretentious pseudo-intelligent asshole.

It sounds like everything is zero-sum for him. Especially intelligence. There's no sense that someone can be talented in one area and dumb in another, it's all conceived as a single hierarchized line, like IQ

"I spent my whole life BEING special" ... Good lord, and the interviewer let him keep talking after that?

Lmao this is the very definition of Main Character Syndrome, “everyone loves Buffy because they wish they could be her, but I love Buffy because I AM her”

Im straight and I loved buffy. Guys are extremely weird, they are mostly insecure and make it everyone else’s problem, and get super toxic if you call it out

I also think a lot of straight guys, in light of the “wokeness” mythos, think they can’t talk about sex with other men or to women or LGBTQ people. They don’t understand its about non objectification, agency, and consent

If they would listen for like, a half hour or so they might learn something and instead of being resentful and angry, they’d actually feel connected to the rest of the human community

“Yes, I like Buffy, but not for the stupid reasons you plebeian ignoramuses do,” he says, while wearing a fedora and khaki cargo shorts (did Yud ever go through a Hawaiian shirt phase?)

While I am no psychologist or psychiatrist, Eliezer Yudkowsky’s account of his own life does read exactly like the writing of every other reasonably articulate person with a severe personality disorder:

When I was in 1st grade I was such a problem child they took me to a child psychologist who gave me a bunch of tests and proceeded to tell my parents, in front of me, "He's disruptive because he's bored, because he's smarter than his teachers." This was a dumb thing to say and caused more problems.

I do not get much sense that he has anything close to a normal emotional life. Not surprising given that he has expressed no empathy for others via his "philosophy". It is very easy to psychologically observe zero empathy. Was obvious with, say, Trump, from the beginning. It's deeply pathological

Here is Eliezer Yudkowsky explaining (like a very normal person who absolutely does not have some kind of acute personality disorder) why, on the basis of his childhood test scores, he is a special genius uniquely qualified to change the world: web.archive.org/web/20010309...

Not that it's the biggest point, but anosognosia isn't necessarily - or even *mostly* - related to loss of limb movement. It's certainly a significant % of cases, i.e. after strokes, but shows up even more commonly when it creates a barrier to treatment among people with .. severe mental illnesses.

This sort of solipsism is normal in tweens & young teens. It's a side effect of developing abstract reasoning but lacking theory of mind for other people yet. You're literally supposed to grow out of it.

the more stuff about this guy i find out (partially against my will) the more ive come to the realization that this is a man who has almost no one in his family who love him enough to tell him things like “no” or “not everything is gonna go your way in life”

It all reads like the late night ramblings of someone on a 1998 BBS, costing everyone credits and ruining the conversation as they post giant blocks of text. Never got the deserved kick, or showed up to meatspace events to be teased about it and turn into a proper human.

I also read and was fascinated by Man Who Mistook His Wife For a Hat but it’s worth remembering that Sacks made up a lot of the things in that book and also was recently revealed to have knowingly mistook a famous abusive pedophile for a colleague and friend

he has done nothing but ridicule them for trying to teach him empathy and emotional maturity and responsibility toward others between that and losing their other son to suicide at a tragically young age, they must live with a lot of heartache

“Also, I’m not interested in how hot Sarah Michelle Gellar is. How stupid of you to even suggest such a thing. Why would you assume that I found Sarah Michelle Gellar attractive and liked to see a show featuring her? Ridiculous”

how buttmad do you think he got when the ending of buffy was that there was literally no reason for there to only be one in every generation, and that it was an arbitrary rule made up by a bunch of dead old men who didn't care about who they hurt so she undoes it and awakens all "potentials"

That's one of the most cringe things I've read in quite a while. I too am a Buffy fan, by the way. I liked Buffy because it was fucking awesome.

This was a funny bit when David Simon did it (people asked him what he thought of "the greatest TV show ever" being made a joke in some "musical The Wire" video. He told them they must be thinking of Buffy), but this is just intensely cringe because I think he actually means it.

Much explained by kids stuck at the middle school cafeteria table. Buffy, fine for what it was, but if harboring self-convinced world's savior vibes 🤔 and that's ur aesthetics at 21, please re-roll. Esp post dating nearly the entire 90s alt film catalog is straight embarrassing.

His dictation strikes me as running language emulation/copypasta from the older Usenet crew who (some acquaintances there) were frustrated "I'm a freaking genius" types, but missed the right age/culture/job window.

Ugh. Buffy and B-5 were legitimately my favourite shows for about 20 years. (B-5 is still up there though I couldn’t enjoy Buffy so much after me too and all the gross Joss stuff came out.) Regardless they had identity-forming level influence on me. I dislike having so much in common with monsters

Hi sorry what? I was an insecure male who was really into Buffy (though not defensive about it) and I got as far as "the magic system has rules" and... this is 100% not even remotely a thing my group of insecure males ever discussed or even vaguely clocked about the show.

It’s also really not true. There’s some really basic rules about vampires, and eventually an overarching mythos. But mostly it was like “whatever the writers come up with they can make it work.”

once you’ve met one narcissist you’ve basically met them all, although yud seems to have a pretty specific and uncommon blend of covert and grandiose features

“Remember, I have no emotional need to be special. I've spent my whole life *being* special.”

In what is absolutely the least surprising twist ever, this guy's favorite TV show of all time happens to be the one who put the crummiest, most abusive bastard in the industry on the map.

Buffy is good! The writing is uneven at parts but the characters are relatable and fun, and it balances fantastical vibes with real emotional resonance! You don’t need to come up with a whole belief system to justify liking it!

yeah I was wondering where the line is. it was fun, I was in high school, I thought it was neat and it still holds some goodish memories. I'm not gonna write pages on why I liked it though.

I'd argue that you can love a show (or book or topic of special interest) and write or talk about it without making it all about yourself. It's 💯 fine to obsess over a special interest! The issue with this dude isn't that he's into Buffy, it's his insufferable arrogance and narcissism.

I would love to know what the Special Little Boys think makes them special. Buffy is special cause she is imbued with the magic powers of a demon that have been passed down from thousands of years ago. Other than that, she’s just some girl. And that’s the point.

And while we’re at it, that’s the point of Harry Potter too. Heroism comes from basically normal people thrust into earth-threatening situations by accidents of birth, and they overcome challenges and save the world through the power of friendship and being extremely human.